He lives in Missouri and I live in Florida. I am 27, but my mom is very attached to me and it would break her heart for me to leave.
2006-11-25 02:55:57 · 35 answers · asked by tainaprq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can keep in touch with your mom so moving is no biggy.
But moving with a guy you met in the Internet, that's insane. How long have you known him.
There is a difference in how relationships go when you have quick access to each other, i.e living in the same city and how they work when you guys see each other occasionally. In the latter you are more emotionally driven because you miss him. And then you end up making this fantasy of who you think he is. This leaves a chance of creating this high expectation of how you want him to be but he will not be able to be.
Reality is not always pretty. Don't move your life without really testing the waters. Visit for a week without shacking with him or something.
2006-11-25 03:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by P&B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Visit the guy and see if he is worth actually making the move for. If he is really a super duper guy then tell your mom.
When you love your mom a lot, you always struggle with decisions when they are going to be affected too. Why don't you talk to her, see if she will manage on her own. She will feel sad like all parents do when their children leave home. If you think she will be miserable without you, visit her as often as possible when you get your break. If that won't work, talk to this guy and see if he will move over to FL. You could both live together in a different place. And, you can visit your mom everyday. Just as everyone says here, be as cautious as possible about your new friend.
2006-11-25 03:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol I have thought the same thing several times. Don't move in with someone you don't know in person first. A friend tried that too, 2 days later he was back home. You don't really know someone as much as you think you do until you know them in person for a while. It would be a bad move and your mom would be scared for you along with mine. I am with someone I met over the internet too. I have known him for almost two years. We didn't meet until over a year after talkin online and on the phone constantly like everyday for hours. We are both slightly different than we come off online. Some people are alotttttttttt more than what they come off as online. We are really happy and he has asked me to move in with him lately, but I am still going to wait, not because I don't trust him or anything because I do, but I"m just not ready yet. Just be careful with what you do and worry more about what you think than anyone else, but do you really want to tell your mom that and be back home in a month or less because it wasnt what you thought it would be? Then how would that make "you" feel? Just be safe because along with the regular decent people on here there are alot of crazies too! Oh, also, this guy lives less than 2 hours from me, and I actually get to see him and hang out with him and know him in person.
2006-11-25 03:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your 27?? well you are not a very bright 27 year old. you fell in love with someone on line? please give me a break. let me guess you and him are very close he tells you every thing blah blah blah. you don't know a thing about this guy. just what he tells you and you have no way of knowing if what he is telling you is the truth.stop being an idiot. act your age not your shoe size. i don't think your mother would object if you were moving with a man that you know your family knows. but she sure in hell is going to complain about you moving with a guy you have never met.think about it. if you do like what this guy is telling you, then have him come for some visits. get to know him, other than on line.then maybe after he comes to visit you a few times, go visit him. see how he lives. then after a while, maybe you should make the decision to move or not.
2006-11-25 03:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is great on-line, you get the best sides of everyone, but i wouldn't move. Why cant the man move to Florida? At least if he turns out to be mean your still on your turf, your 27 no one can tell you what to do, not even mom. But remember in the end of something bad happens mom will still be there for you. And i could tell you i love you and i would never do anything bad, its easy to type anything. But if your determined to move. Go on line pay the $30.00 and have a check on him to make sure he has nothing bad in his back ground. Also go rent the movie"strange-land" Just be careful. Good luck
2006-11-25 03:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult, you can do what you want, however, I would be very cautious about moving in with a guy I met online. Maybe you should start off by moving to Missouri and dating before moving in together.
Better yet, get him to move where you live, that would keep you and your Mom happy.
2006-11-25 02:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by bon b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really going to break her heart that you want to move off with a stranger you have met on line that is crazy you know how many people have been murdered by doing stupid crap like that! At 27 years old i think you you be a little smarter than that! that being said you need to have you own life and be you own person what ever you do your mother will still love you she will be upset for a while but she will be OK, you can always visit her!
2006-11-25 02:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"Mom, I know it will break your heart to realize that you have managed to raise a total dumba$$. However, I have fallen head over heels in love with a guy I have never actually met in real life. I have decided to move in with him, even though he lives like a thousand miles away and in a place where I have absolutely no support system. I'll try to come home if he turns out to be a real jerk, or really nasty-looking, or not at all what I was expecting. If you don't hear from me within 24 hours after I am scheduled to arrive there, please call the police and tell them that you think I may have been killed or imprisoned by a psychotic sicko."
2006-11-25 03:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fallen in love online? Do you KNOW his man? Have you met and dated and developed a relationship offline? Breaking to your mom should be the last of your worries if you haven't had an offline relationship. This guy could be the next Jeffrey Dahmer...I hope you aren't just planning on moving in with a stranger.
2006-11-25 02:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Loli M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are a grown *** woman! Secondly you shouldnt rush into this relationship because you really dont know him from adams apple. You should meet with him first and build a relationship with him via off line and go visit him and have visit you in Florida. You should also be very cautious because it is 2006 where there are maniac everywhere. I hope I helped a tad bit and I also hope you made the right decision.
2006-11-25 03:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋