how do i tell my mom?

Question

im homeschooled and i dont want to be. i cant get the guts to tell my mom im 12 and in the 7th grade.

Answer 1

Obviously, your mom must have her reasons for having you home schooled. Why are you afraid to approach her on the subject? Do you and your mom have a good relationship? When I have a difficult time tell someone something, I write it down, maybe in the form of a letter. That way, I don't lose my train of thought. If you do this, you better come up with all the pros of going to a public school, because your mom is going to come with all the cons.

Answer 2

I suggest you sit down and say mom I think I would like to experiment going to public school. Make sure you tell her how thankful you are that she has put so much effort forward to teach you, but you would like to see what public school is all about.

Ask her if you can try it just for one semester. After that semester (being a new one is starting in Jan its a good time to make the switch), as a family you will sit down and see if anything is different. See the pros and cons of switching. If it wasnt all you thought it would be you can switch back to homeschooling.

Being public school is free I don't see any reason why your parents would not let you venture out and test the waters.

Good luck hon.

If anything ask her to do some research. It is shown that homeschooled and unschooled children are very socially lacking once of high school age. Up until that point there is no difference between public, private, home or un-schoooled students. Children who go to high school (either public or private) are more likely to have better and more mature friendships. The best years of your life are in high school. Prom, homecoming, dances, sports games, even lunch.

Good luck.

Answer 3

It's important to show your mom that you are mature enough to make this type of decision. The best way to do that would be to have an open conversation. Tell your mom that you would like to discuss an important matter with her when she has time. Don't try to talk about it when she's busy with housework or cooking or if other people are around. And then sit down, tell her all the reasons you'd like to go to public school. I would provide her options, like offering to try it as a trial period (a semester or two). If it doesn't work out, or if you don't keep up your grades, you'll go back to homeschooling. Make sure your reasons are legit, don't mention things like hanging out with friends or seeing a boyfriend/girlfriend. Tell her you want the social interaction and the life experience of a public school. Don't be nervous about it, you're simply having a mature conversation about your life and upbringing. If she isn't immediately open to the idea, ask her if there is anything you can do to reassure her that public school is okay. Don't whine, or yell, or argue with your mom. Listen to what she has to say and acknowledge her concerns, be prepared to have solutions to her concerns. Do some research to find out what the benefits are to public schooling, and present that research in a factual manner (maybe even make a presention to give her).

Answer 4

What's important when discussing things with your parents is, not telling them what you want, but discussing your opinion and situation with them. Make sure you can give them reasons for your feelings.

Here's an example:

1. Ask your Mom if she will talk to you about home schooling? Tell her, in your own way, that you have mixed feelings about being homeschooled and you'd like to discuss it with her. When you ask, instead of tell, you are more likely to be listened to and have the best opportunity to understand your parents' perspective.

2. Write down the top 3 or 4 reasons that you don't want to be home schooled. Think about your reasons carefully and try to understand them as best possible.

3. Respect your parents. They're trying to do the right thing for the long term even if things feel weird right now.

Answer 5

Mom... I really enjoy homeschooling,and the fact that I have so much time to spend with you.... the fact is many girls my age are not close to their mothers because they don't really spend much time with them.....but lately I've been feeling kind of isolated... I need more friends my age...so I don't miss out on these younger years of my life. You taught me great values/morals, and self respect, and I will use that in the outside world, so you don't need to worry about me doing something crazy and letting you down.... I really want to go to a regular school...thanks mom....

P.S. you are so lucky to be homeschooled..... you have the chance to do other things.... like take dance classes... have hobbies.... do what all kids want to do but can't..... so weigh out your options first before you say anything to your mother!

Answer 6

first of all she should be in a good mood in that way you could talk to her better. and also before doing this you have to ask your self first why dont you want to be home schooled and what are the benefits if you are in a normal school., you have to break it to her gently and make sure that you are showing her how much you wanted to go to a normal school rather than being home schooled, just tell her the reason why not, in a way that you would not hurt her feelings and if she ever asked " why am i not giving you the education you need?" just tell her that you also want to experience what other kids are experiencing. .. . . . .well i hope this helps . . .God bless. .. . i'm sure she'll understand

Answer 7

Ask her why she wants you to be homeschooled. She might have to go reason to want you to be homeschooled. Afterwards, you tell her how you feel in a respectful voice and manner. Maybe that way she will understand.

Answer 8

Just talk to her, tell her that you want to go to school. She might seem a bit upset, but if you really want to go to school then let her know.
I homeschool as well, I love it. But if I ever wanted to go back to school I would definatly let my Mom know.

Answer 9

well, depending on what your mom's like it might be kinda hard. i would sit down with her and say something like- you know, I've been home schooled all of my school years. I'd like to try something new and see what public school is like.(if she wasn't home schooled when she was in school, say something about that too.) Hope i was some help!

Answer 10

I'm sure if you talk to your mom--she will understand you. How will she ever know if you don't tell her??
I'm sure she'll listen and talk back to you about it. Just ask her if you can talk to her and that you need to tell her what is on your mind and why!