I am a senior in high school and my first love broke up with me 3 monthes ago. It has been a slow healing process and I am finally starting to get over her. Unfortunately, the only time I see her is one class a day and in this class she has a new boyfriend. I hvant talked to her in about a month because I told her it was too hard for me to pretend we were friends. I used to like this class but now I hate going to it and it is hard to concentrate because I have to see them together. How can I deal with this without being hurt everytime I think of her and everytime I step foot in that class? (and there really are few other girls I can talk to in that class)
2006-11-25 02:47:09 · 17 answers · asked by im bringing sexy back 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
a) get a hot new gf, even if your not like that, itll make you feel better
b) punch the guy out in front of the whole school. you might get punished, but itll be worth it
Above all, dont hold on to hope that you might get back together with the girl. Life is too short, and reunited couples rarely happen.
2006-11-25 02:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ouch, sounds tough. The first love is always a rough one. When I broke up with my first high school love, I was a freshman in college. I still enjoyed going to the places him and I used to go, but I started to always run into him and his new girlfriend. If you're on talking terms with her, tell her its hard because you still care about her and ask her if she could keep the public displays of affection down a notch (you guys are in class afterall). If she's not being overly flaunting and your just having a hard time, start talking to other people in class. What are the reasons why you like this class besides because she was in it when you two were dating? Focus on that more than her. If you can, sit in an area where you can't see them. Also, understand what you're going through. It's going to hurt. Express yourself through writing or drawing. Set up something after class if you can or after school to get your mind off of her, such as a basketball game with the guys or a jam session if you play an instrument. Dive into something you love that you can look forward to and give it time. The heart does eventually heal, even when we think it wont. Remember, its your senior year and you deserve to enjoy it.
2006-11-25 10:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Zestfully Jess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she knows u are a hurt by her action so she isn't going to stop "tormenting" you until you stand up for yourself.Establish a friendship with her and start relating to her as such,when she sees that you have gotten over her then she will have nobody to be dealing with her attitude anymore.Even though it hurts losing a loved one,your ability to stand up strong shows how strong you can be.Going for a new girlfriend in your class or school now won't keep thoughts of your ex out of your mind.you will have to deal with her attitude towards you by yourself,u don't need a new girlfriend to show her that u've gotten over her because your ex and even mates will notice u as a coward who's trying to hide behind some girl.Start doing the things you love to do more,don't let her get into you.Pretending is very difficult but it can halt an emotional torment.Spend more time with your interest to help u stay focused.Pretend that she isn't in class with you.Are you going to lose to your ex's new bf?I asked because if u stop attending this class or fail in this class,you've given him victory twice:he took your girlfriend and has made u miserable in class.I don't think u will want to lose to the "enemy" twice.Let himhave your girl but you will have the rest..good luck
2006-11-25 11:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Phy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get a new girlfriend. Realize that high school is just the prep ground for life. As you age these same type of situations will occur. Get to know the person as a friend before you start with the romance. Don't get too involved. This is a learning experience.
2006-11-25 11:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was your first love like you say she is, chances are it is always going to hurt. For some reason I don't know anyone that has honestly gotten over their first love. There is a special connection...just keep in mind that their is a good chance you were not HER first love which is why it isn't an issue for her. There really isn't much you can do except continue to not talk to her because once you do, you become THAT GUY! And nobody, NOBODY, wants to be the psycho ex-stalker guy. Not to say that by talking to her you really ARE being that guy, but she will tell everyone you are and the few girls in class you can talk to will become none.
2006-11-25 10:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by jscalice292 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really don't know what to say, because you will have to deal with this process alone..I know it's difficult..but try to keep these emotions to your self and make sure that she doesnt find out...
pretend you dont care anymore about her and try moving on..find a new girlfriend..there many girls out there that would love to have a loyal and passionate person like you...
you still young by the way...dont get too much into these things..its useless, trust me....
2006-11-25 10:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't try to replace her, or engage her in conversation. Focus on yourself, as you have been doing. You need to keep trying to accept that it's over and not torture yourself by following her moves.
The best thing for you to do would be to immerse yourself in something you enjoy that does not involve dating.
Finally, sorry but you are going to be hurt when you see her. In time, this too shall pass.
Stay strong!
2006-11-25 10:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you will be able to deal in time. i know seeing her with someone else was a set back but things will get better. just go to class and try not to think about it. you have your education to worry about and you dont want to fail because you cant bear to look at your ex.
2006-11-25 10:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, just tell the truth of how you feel. I think she will understand. But if she ignore you, just let it go. I think you will find another girl that fits for you.
2006-11-26 19:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jan Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-25 11:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Dizle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋