I want so much to serve god and live a good life with some meaning to it, but most christains i have met are so judgemental even my own family i'm sorry to say, what does it matter what you wear or how your house is done up its so frustrating i feel i'm being watched and picked up on everything i do or say. all feels so false. What can i do without offending
2006-11-25 02:10:28 · 22 answers · asked by smouldering wolf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't go to church, pray at home. That way, you can communicate directly with God and not have to face interference from other, nasty people.
2006-11-25 02:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know exactly what you mean. As a Christian, I find it very upsetting when I see other "Christians" judgeing others over what they wear, or things they have done in their past.
I grew up in a church where people in the church would be very judgemental towards me and some of the other kids at the time. This was back in the 80's at the time, and when some of the kids and I in our youth group started wearing jeans to church, we were frowned upon for it saying it's not respectful to wear jeans to church.
I'm sorry that there are people who call themselves Christians who think that they have to judge you for the things that you do, or don't do.
I believe that as a Christian, it's not my place to judge you or anyone esle. Because I know that God is the ultimate judge, and it's his place.
Hope that this helps.
Take care and God Bless
2006-11-25 02:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I've always found over-zealous people to be very off-putting too. Sometimes, they don't realise how they're coming across.
Try as much as you can to ignore what they say and how they behave. I'm sure there are so many people who call themselves Christians but behave worse than those who wouldn't set foot inside a church or even pray at home, if you paid them.
If they keep on, you could try giving them a brief smile and say something like "thanks for your concern, I'll bear it in mind" and then change the subject. That way they should get the message that despite what they say, you'll change your mind/behaviour/dress/home whatever, when God lets you know you're ready.
I believe they are varying degrees of Christians, some "bible bash" and try to force others round to "their" way of thinking, whereas others are more private with their beliefs and you only really know they are Christians by the way the behave.
I remember seeing a preacher on one of the Sky programmes, I believe he was Australian. He was preaching to a packed church and he was saying why are some Christians so miserable. They should be celebrating, instead of dragging themselves around, all doom and gloom. I thought, you know what, you are soooooo right! I refuse to be unhappy just because I Believe.
Try not to let anyone push their unhappiness/unfulfillment on to you. Its their baggage - let them deal with it! Smile, ask God for strength to deal with them and then move your thoughts on.
2006-11-25 02:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jamma354 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to ignore them. God doesn't care how you dress, or how you decorate your house. He looks at the content of your heart, the way you treat others, the way you live your life. And as a Christan it is not our place to judge anyone. For as a Christian if we see someone doing something against Gods wishes we should address the issue and then pray for that person, not judge. Many times people tend to forget this. For it says in the bible careful the measure we use to judge, for that is also the measure that God will use to judge us. And also we should take the pillar out of our own eye, before we address the splinter in our friends. So just ignore them, perhaps they mean well and are just misguided. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-25 02:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EVERYONE is judgemental in their own way. Even those who say they are tolerant have their own little things in their head. It's those who vocalize their judgements and put others down that are the problem. When people say something to make you feel bad, smile sweetly and say "I'll pray for you." Simple as that. No one is perfect. But you can be a great example yourself of how people SHOULD act, and hopefully they will follow your lead. Don't rely on others to show you how to be a good Christian - just be one and be the example yourself.
2006-11-25 02:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by whatever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have recognised everything about what I call 'organised religion' of any faith. Maybe you have moved on spiritually and need to find your own path rather than follow a way set out by others. Try reading 'The Road Less Traveled' by M Scott Peck..............it might help to put things into perspective for you and explain why you feel as you do.
2006-11-28 06:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how about looking to the bible for your answers? After all the bible was inspired of God, He is its author, He just got humans to put it on paper so we could all avail of His wisdom. The bible says that women should be in well arranged dress and modest, (1Timothy 2:9,10) if you feel that you are following what the bible says and are at peace with your conscience that you are not stumbling others then it is up to you how you dress. Do not let mere humans sway your choices in life. God gave each of us a conscience and also free will to live our lives as we feel a true Christian ought.
If you are happy and content in your choices then God will bless you. He will let you know in his own time and way if you are not living as he wants you to. God bless.
2006-11-25 11:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by smileybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, i'm a similar! some situations a week I take your time and do my hair and makeup, in spite of the indisputable fact that if i'm not likely everywhere, and it rather does make any such distinction to how i think about myself. yet in many situations speaking, i in simple terms can't be afflicted! I too regularly go away the homestead and not using a drop of makeup on - sooo staggering should you comprehend me pre-toddler! yet i have moved to a clean section so I in simple terms confirm what the hell no-one is conventional with me LoL. at the same time as my son is sound asleep, I have extra powerful events with myself than to spend 0.5 an hour contained in the reflect dolling myself up - yet I nonetheless like it, and desire I had the skill to do it extra regularly!!
2016-11-26 21:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion and God are very controversial no matter who you are talking to. You know what kind of relationship you have with God and if it's good enough for you, why should it matter what other people think? If they start questioning you about your actions, tell them that you have your own personal relationship with God and you are happy with that relationship. Tell them that your God is a loving God who loves you know matter what. Maybe they'll back off. If not, it's there problem.
2006-11-25 02:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those people are not Christian or God fearing if that is what they are doing and you just remember that you only answer to God and no one else, He sees your heart He knows all about you. Sounds like the ones you've run into a nitpickers. It take all kinds in this world of ours and I have had similiar experiences and so I end with who are they to say are they God?
2006-11-25 02:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hear what you are saying and can assure you that you are not alone.
The thing to remember is that you shouldn't judge God by his followers; we're all damaged people who are transformed by Him. The best thing to do is to read the bible - particularly the New Testament to find out what Jesus did, and what He has to say about things.
You are loved and accepted just for being you, whoever you are, how ever you are.
2006-11-25 02:16:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋