So have you settled? If so why?

Question

So many people settle in life (I am raising my hand to on several issues don't worry) because of decisions we made earlier, or circumstances, or we just don't think something better is out there for us...

Why do we settle when if we wait, we might find something in life that is worth waiting for?

Why don't we search for what is best for us even if it may take awhile?

If you have settled, do you ever ask the question, "What if..."

practical guy....that is cool if you want to be a side kick as Robin...but I don't go both ways...and you aint getting this a s s...LOL

Answer 1

Never settle for love. Never settle for less than what you can be or accomplish. But in the mean time...the here and now is very precious. Destiny plays a large part in our lives.

We are guided and it is up to us to follow our questions and find answers in order to grow and live life to it's fullest for the short time that we are all here for.

I've asked myself, "is this all that there is?"........the answer is no. I've asked myself....."can I see myself with this man for the next 20 years?".....the answer was no....I got out.

Clear cut choices are a wonderful free part of being alive. Not allowing others to control our lives, our destiny is part of allowing ourselves to "live" our own lives.

You can't settle for anything in life. If you do, you compromise the very existence of yourself. You do no justice to the other person or persons whatever the situation may be.

When you can grow beyond your own expectations by thinking and doing what is right for you; then everything around you flourishes and thrives!

I hope that I've made some sort of sense. Good luck.

Answer 2

I have settled in my career (and in a state with a very bad economy) because I love the man who is now my husband and I want to stay with him. I justify it by saying that I certainly didn't 'settle' for the wrong man--I am with the person I want to be with.

I often think 'what if...' I still lived somewhere else? I'd probably have a spectacular job, and I wouldn't be using a college degree to serve coffee. I wouldn't get asked about it every day.

But when I ask myself that, I realize that I would be alone. I married my very best friend, and he is my rock! I also realized that I would not have wanted to pursue higher education without this situation.

A lot of people think I'm an idiot for following my heart. I don't care how many degrees they have or how much money they make... they can put their opinions where the sun doesn't shine if they really feel that way :)

Answer 3

I am settled and would not trade what I have or who I have in my life for anything in the world.

I married when I was 36. I spent most of my adult years being single and loving it. Experienced things and did things I never would have been able to experience or do if I had married.

Waiting to marry was the best thing for me because I had a chance to stomp my feet, get the single life out of my system and grow up.

I would never have to ask the question "what if" now. I experienced "what if" before I settled down.

When you marry you don't just expect it to work because you are married. It takes two people to make it work.

If you fall in love and marry for the right reasons there is nothing that can stand in the way of your happiness.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, we get what we settle for. Whether in a mate, a job, or station in life.

It is obviously better to aim high and "just miss", than to aim low and be "right on".

I think you are quite correct to acknowledge that we all have a tendency to play "Monday morning quarterback". It is easy to second guess what we should have said or done.

Unfortunately also, our greatest learning experiences come from our failures, not our successes.

I think that is why God puts so many curves in the road, so we can not see too far ahead.

Answer 5

Never! If I don't "settle" then I hurt only the person I am with. If I love the one I am with and see something better and go after it, then I will never know true love. Never know true responsibility. The grass is always greener. I just can't see myself leaving a trail of broken hearts just to prove I didn't settle.

Answer 6

I think we settle because of the fear of the unknown. If we are not sure of what the out come of something is going to be, we usually settle for the safety of what we do know.

I have settled for what I know just to play it safe, in fear of not knowing what is out there and how to go about getting it.

Answer 7

I happily accept what I have right now. I do not look into the future for something better. I may not have a future! Today may be last day on this earth. So, I make sure I am happy in the present!

Answer 8

I have settled before and will most likely settle again. Depending on what you are talking about, sometimes settling is a part of compromise.

Answer 9

Most people do not like to live by them self. So when someone comes along that they feel will do, thats it. You should be willing to live with that and not ask what if, that only makes one start looking around for something better and stop working on what they already have.

Answer 10

Because humans are creatures of habit. They tend to stick to things they are comfortable with. Searching for something different and taking a chance is much more scary for some people than sticking with the same ol thing, even that 'same ol thing' is not a good thing. It is sad really. You just have to take a chance and go for it to get happy....it really works....you just have to be willing to take the jump.