maybe someone needs to tell my wife of 14yrs that if a man knows your married and have kids and he doesnt care he cant be trusted.I think he does not have any morals to begin with.yeah shes at fault too because it takes 2.but why would she sacrifise her 14 yr old marriage for something like that?and yes I have been very faithful,supportive and affectionet with her.she is 33 and I'm 32 yrs old.could she be going through a mid life crisis?
2006-11-25 01:41:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes she could be going through something like that but it is no excuse. You will have to run him off, If wife objects then tell her that she will be run off too. I would say something to both of them, I am not sure what should be said in your case but something. If left unsaid would be worse. She may be doing this just to get a rise out of you and for you to stand up and show you care. It could be a number of things. You think you have been supportive, faithful and good to her but is that what she thinks. Good luck.
2006-11-25 01:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or a lack of some kind of attention in her life. She may feel the need for a little adventure in her life that you need to give her. Take her out without the kids and have a fun evening. Go out to eat or to a club and watch a band (not all people drink at more places than you think if that's your problem). Find a cabin to rent for a weekend. She may need this. Work on keeping her intertained. If you keep her and the kids into activities to stay busy like her in softball or something then she has these things to help take up her time too. Idle time alone causes problems.
2006-11-25 01:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And, maybe that someone who tells her should be you!
Do you have proof that she is cheating or flirting with the idea of cheating?
Communication is key in a marriage. 2's company, and 3's a crowd most definitely. Make your feelings clear to both she and this man but not in an accusatory way.
Unfortunately the society in which we all universally live in supports and intimates that infidelity is perfectly fine. We pay to go to movies that make infidelity look like it's fun or exciting. We advertise to attract the opposite sex; We are most certainly past the days of Ward & June Cleaver and the white picket fence. But, then again, that was only scripted too.
Marriage is tough. But you've got to be able to talk, and communicate on a level that is not assuming or threatening - but concerning and above all, allow yourself to truly listen to your spouse. From that, you will find a way to work it out. And working it out, may mean that you both find that you're not compatible anymore.
Stop hiding from her, or the situation and talk to her. Good luck to you.
2006-11-25 01:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It definitely sounds like a mid life crisis, but it also sounds like you both never took the opportunity to scout out 'other fish in the sea' before you got married in the first place. And as for the trust question...it sounds like your wife is the one who can't be trusted. The 'man' she is hanging around with now should be leary of that. If she's doing whatever she is doing WITH him, what makes him think she wouldn't do the same thing TO him??
2006-11-25 01:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by WittyPrincess 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Given the right circumstances, anyone (man or woman) will cross the line with a married person. If the married person is leading the person to believe that they will "play", then that is the green light for them to cross the line. Same can be said with friends and girlfriends/boyfriends. People generally don't think about the "other" person...just satisfying their animal needs at the moment. Kind of the "if he/she doesn't know...it won't hurt them". That statement is true....barring any complications.
2006-11-25 01:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, the man can't be trusted. Your wife is looking for adventure and he gave that to her. It is a fact that women are more likely to cheat in a relationship than men are. The best thing to do is to let her go and do what she wants and still be there for her because I know you love her. You put a ring on her finger. Your main priority is to make sure your kids are taken care of. They come before all else. Remind her of her kids and her responsabillity to them. Those kids need their parents. I feel for you.
Rich
2006-11-25 02:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Roll'n Bluntz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some men cannot be trusted. My wife was 40yrs. old when she had a fling. She was getting hit on all the time even when wearing her wedding ring. It is a tough ordeal to get over. Some people never do. It ended our 30 yr. marriage.
2006-11-25 02:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He can't be trusted, he'd probably go and find another girl after he's through with her. Sometimes, I wonder why adults give in sooo easily to stuff like this. Marriage and divorce is nor something to be played with. Care to pass this on?
2006-11-25 01:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-13 02:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people meet thier soul mate after they have already made a choice to marry another. life is too short if she wants someone else move on you will be better off in the long run. Why would you want someone that wants someone else?
2006-11-25 01:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by kd 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋