I tried having sex twice with my boyfriend but i started to bleed and it hurt like hell. IS that normal?.?

Question

I know that some people bleed when having sex for the first time. I thought the same but it happened again for the second time and the pain was unbearable. Please do let me know if its any thing serious or am i just over reacting. My boyfriend is very understanding and is concerned about my health. I know he cares for me a lot and i too want to give him pleasure. Please help me out on this.

i'm 20 years old...yeah i know...too late by many girls standards.....My periods are fine..no problem with them.....and he was very carefull and slow when we did it..or tried to do ti

Answer 1

hymen doesnt always break the first time, or even the second. Need to take lots of time, lubrication, and gentleness. If pain persists, then could be dyspareunia, a physical/psych problem.

Answer 2

It is normal to have pain when first having sex. If he is large it will hurt like hell the first few times. Make sure you have lots of lubrication and take it slow. This is normal just take it slow

Answer 3

When I lost my virginity (which was actually not very painful for me, thankfully,) I bled that time, but not the next time, but I bled again on the third time. There was also a little bit of bloody discharge in the downtime.
Bascially, someimtes the hymen doesn't get fully broken the first time, and sometimes, given enough time in between, it can heal over, or even just partially heal and have to be rebroken.
In terms of avoiding pain, make sure your boyfriend goes very slowly when it comes to penetration. Get him to take his time and communicate to make yourself as comfortable as possible.
Lubrication is important, although your natural lube is preferable if you produce enough. Foreplay is very important for getting you wet enough for intercourse, and it also allows your muscles time to relax in preparation for penetration. So, again, take your time with it.

Answer 4

sometimes it is normal,sometimes it is not,for instance,if a virgin has sex today and she stops for awhile maybe for another 3 month,the next time will be painful and she may bleed,also it may be psychology,your belief.its either of the two,if its the 1st one,you don't have a problem,but if its the second one,you need to see a psychologist

Answer 5

Yes, Doll. It is normal, especially if it is your first time. Or maybe you just need a "Good work out". Don't worry. However if things get to painful "STOP" hold off, things can wait. If your boyfriend can't understand that then find one that will. Oh, and please make your boyfriend wear a condom. Your much to young, and pretty to die for sex.

Answer 6

it could be normal but you need to go to the doc. I had the same problem and let it go on for months and come to find out I had cancer cells growing on my cervix. What you have might not be cancer or as serious but you don't need to wait to find out. I was told that I bealy caught it early enough to do something about it. Your lucky to have a boyfriend that understands

Answer 7

If you are 20 you might need to consider getting checked out that sound like cervical erosion trauma to the cervix its normal.

Answer 8

Some women have a very hard time at first, especially if their hymen is tough to break. If this continues, see your doctor because that can be fixed very easily.

Answer 9

Yes Its perfectly normal especially since it is your first time. Try a lubricant. Good luck!

Answer 10

Normal. A woman's "parts" tear a little the first time.