What if one of the ppl in a marriage, is suspected of cheating, and denies ever doing it, should the other forgive and forget? And how would they make things normal between them?
2006-11-25 01:33:58 · 22 answers · asked by Adan M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they can, but is very difficult.
:> peace
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2006-11-28 18:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you fear infidelity in your marriage then you are doomed. Infidelity has a way of rearing its head whether you suspect or actual know for a fact. What you do in the dark is going to come to the light. However, you are what you think about most. If you fear infidelity, you will get infidelity.
"A wise man (homeless) told my husband when he was having a jealous tirade on the street one day. Jealousy leaves no room for love. The energy that you take to be jealous is the same energy that you lose to show love. It takes less energy to love than it does to be jealous."
Trust in yourself first, and believe that if you think good thoughts, good things will happen to you. If your spouse is cheating, at least when you find out you are in a good space.
Forgiveness is difficult because the same level of love you have for a person is same lkevel of hate you will have when they cheat. To forgivbe, you have to go to your godly level of acceptance and remember that Jesus forgave the Roamsn that crucified him. And he is with God. Where will you be if your can't forgive. Life is too short.
2006-11-25 10:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person does not admit to infideltiy there is nothing to forgive. You can only forgive a wrongdoing.
I do know for a fact that you can forgive infidelity. I did with my first husband but told him he only had the one chance. If he cheated again, he was gone. He is now gone!
If you forgive and forget, you can NEVER mention it again. If you continue to throw infidelity into someones face then you have not forgiven at all. No matter how mad you get and how you would love to remind them of their wrong doing, you cannot!
2006-11-25 09:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the accused IS cheating and won't own up to it, then the marriage is dead, regardless of wheter or not the other spouse forgives them. If there really is NO cheating, then the accused should forgive the accusing spouse and they should work together to build trust in one another. If the accusing spouse continues to be suspicious, the relationship will eventually fail.
2006-11-25 10:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you would have to talk to all parties involved and get at the truth of the matter.
If there was no indiscretion then the accusing partner certainly has some apologizing to do and had best keep the green eyed monster of jealousy under control.
You make things normal with counseling, thats the shortcut. If not then you drag on for months wondering and its just easier to work through it with counseling.
You have to always remember that we are all human and it may be the only discretion and ask yourself is it worth losing them over because of your pride.
2006-11-25 09:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't forgive and forget if the person who cheated can't be honest. In most cases it takes genuine regret and a real apology to even consider forgiveness. If trust isn't earned back how can the person forget. Things can't ever be normal if one party can't be honest.
2006-11-25 09:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by cannoninthehouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you forgive something that you don't even know happened? If you don't have proof, you can't accuse therefore, you can't forgive because there isn't anything to forgive.
You move forward however, if you suspect something did happen. You do this by seeing how your spouse treats you. Being treated with kindness, respect and love are key to a happy marriage.
If you don't have trust, you don't have anything.
2006-11-25 09:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by New 4 Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Look around in there for some good advice. There are tons of people that can help you because they have gone thru the same thing themselves. Trust me it may save your marriage and make the two of you stronger. Just take a look at least.
2006-11-25 17:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is be faithful to each other. Mucking around only gives you a few seconds of pleasure and a lifetime guilt and stresses on the marriage. It is so uneccessary if you really love one another, keep it clean baby, you'll feel better and more respected by your spouse. That's if you really want to stay married to each other.
2006-11-25 09:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is denied over and over perhaps that is the truth. What a concept that would be. There for there isn't any thing to forgive, except miss trust. If you know how it is ask. Then go from there.
2006-11-25 09:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you act, make sure that you have all the proofs. with that even if a woman or man is sturbon, she or he must bend down and accept the allegation.after that then you can sit down and think if it is worthwile to forgive or divorce because everything is possible.
2006-11-25 10:02:19 · answer #11 · answered by KING TOOTER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋