why do i feel so bad?

Question

i had my divorce with my h,i have 2 kids and my whole familly turn their back on me.some of my friends also............why do i feel so lonley in this world?why can they be so cruel to me?just because i divorce?

Answer 1

Hi,simo
1st of all you should know that its not ur fault to have all this situation happen to u, when its clear that it can happen to anyone and unfortunately it comes to u, then u will know that this is life, some times good some time bad some time worst......

You feel so bad since you were not expecting this from them, remember that life never stop in any situation and it goes on ....

so keeping in mind that you have ur kids and this is ur world you have to feel good and make them feel good. Never let ur kids feel so bad like u feel now....so for this you have to get happy and be independent, caring and loving mother......ok

U look so nice and caring , the people like you should not feel bad, u can make other people feel happy....:)

Hope this answer will share ur feelings and make u feel strong

Answer 2

Families are fickle. If they paid for the weeding they are upset, and if this man represented everything in themselves or more then you are the jerk, but they will always love you. You must show them that you are self sufficient for them to get off your back. Money isn't everything if you are not happy.

Divorce is like death, you have to get through the stages. First your family is in denial that such a thing has occurred, but your survival skills should kick in for your children and you first.

Second, you feel responsible for the divorce. What could I have done differently? should I have cook dinner everyday, instead of helping the kids take a bath or their homework? Did I not looked sexy enough,? Did he love me in the first place? Did I say something to my in-laws that isolated us? Why did'nt I communicate more when he was asking me my opinion? Maybe I should have gotten a second job. All reasons and more in your head. The real reason people get divorce - Just fall out of love, and they stop doing the things that made them fall in love." You must realize that you have to collect yourself for your children sake and your well being.

Third step, you get sick and tired of the dirty dishes, the kids running around house while you sleep and cry, and you decide that you will not let your family win. You will just let it go and start anew.

A. Go to the places that you went with your husband. Don't let that stop you because you are not with him. Enjoy your meal, accept the check and wink at any man that is looking at you- because you can.

B. Listen to the music that you love even if it reminds of him (Get a new tune or two that are just yours.) If you are not a dancer take up dancing you might meet a whole new set of friends.

C. Get yourself a new man. Girl, you will feel like a new woman when a man tell you are beautiful and desirable again. DO NOT SLEEP WITH ANYONE ON THE REBOUND. WAIT A YEAR TO FIND YOURSELF. GET RICH IN THE INTERIM. LET SEE HOW YOUR FAMILY FEELS ABOUT THAT.

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Answer 3

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it. Even though you and your husband are no longer together, that's no excuse for your family to turn their backs on you. Have you considered going to church? They can be a great help in times like these. Unforunately, you're on your own right now, so now is the time to make that an opportunity. Spread out, grow, discover yourself. I know you're lonley, that's why I suggested a church. If you have any skills, like crafts, see if there any groups out there that you could join, or a book club, or some of your children's parents, see if you can get a Mommy's group formed. There are ways to alleviate the loneliness, and you'll also discover that while it's sad your family has turned their backs on you, you'll find that you're stronger than you or they knew. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

Hi darl, i went through the same thing, i felt so alone i lost communication with my parents and my brothers. I think it is that they cant accept change but eventually they come around. Give them time to accept it. As for your friends if they haven't supported you well they are not friends you can't pick and choose your family but you can pick and choose your friends. You have your children and although you feel alone now you must have left your husband for a reason so concentrate on the positive. Also your children need you now as they must also be feeling the divorce, so put your focus on them for now. I hope things settle down for you soon. Good Luck to you and your kids.

Answer 5

Dark Angel (wow that name says a bunch) if you run with a high class crowd, this is going to happen. I was the first in my family to divorce, I was, and am, excommunicated from them, indirectly. No one will admit this is their attitude, but, we all know what we see. When my brother divorced he was also removed from the "inner circle" and he came running to me. Why do they act like this? An innate inability to possess a character trait called empathy! Just know that you are better than them. Maybe not better off than them, but you have a better personality, better character!

Answer 6

Liosten if your friends turned there back on you,they aint friends!Listen theres over 6 million people on this planet.some people are bound to hate you some are bpound to love you,you need to go out to a spa or go on a YOU shopping trip no kids no friends and dont CARE what people think about what YOU like! Do what makes YOU feel good!and you woill feel better,

Answer 7

you shouldnt feel alone. You did what you felt was right in your heart. Noone else has to live your life but you and if you were unhappy in your marriage then you did I right thing and I totally look up to you ...having the strength to do what you did. I wouldnt worry about what others think its your happiness that counts more. I wish I had the strength to leave my marraige cause living in a marriage you are unhappy in is no way to live.

Answer 8

Oh ,they can't understand all reasons!
First of all it's your life and no one else! If you though that your ex wasn't that man you wanted ,then it's your decision ,your life!
You mustn't be a martyress , I think your children had to support you ,if they really love you.
I think you must go in the mountains , or somewhere else ,maybe in Dubai or Paris , you must relax!
Be little bit ego , it helps sometimes,cause if you don't love and respect yourself then no one else will respect and love you!
I'm on your side! :):):)Take care!

Answer 9

I'm divorced too, and for a while it may seem as though the universe itself is aginst you, but hang in there, it does get better.

(((hugs)))

Answer 10

aww hun, dont worry, you have your kids and there is still plenty of love in the world.

I wont turn my back on you.