Why is it that nice women always seem to hook up with not so nice men, and nice men seem to always hook up with not so nice women?
2006-11-25 01:10:24 · 22 answers · asked by oracle1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You hit it right on the nail with that one! And it doesn't stop there! I've notice the scummiest biker dudes have the most beautiful women on back of their rides! Whats up with that. Yet you get some good looking nice guy and all he can get is some x hooker from Jersey!
2006-11-25 01:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are always seeking something in a partner that they have and you want, Opposites attratct and compliment eachother. If hooked up with someone just like you, it would boring and nothing to learn from eachother. The bad guys give the good girls a bit more of a challenge and although bad boys will play with bad girls, they marry the good ones.
2006-11-25 10:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by karen_michele_1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kind of funny but these are practice runs until we meet the right ones. Sometimes people are interested in someone that others consider as not so nice and believe that they can change the person. Wrong! A person will only change when and if they are ready and not because of another person harping at them to do so.
2006-11-25 09:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that unmatched couples are more noticeable 'from the outside'. As a species, humans tend to notice breaks in the pattern particularly acutely. Couples who are well matched tend to merge more into the background. Have a look at the start of Anna Karenina by Tolstoy.
Similarly, members of an unmatched couple are more likely to reach out to sympathetic people 'on the outside' if things aren't going well inside the relationship. Folk in unstable relationships (and your 'not nice' tag suggests the possibility) who 'relate' to you (because you are similar to them) are particularly likely to come to your attention. It follows that if you are similar to them, then you will have the same 'problem' with their partner as they do.
Of course, your judgement that the other partner is 'not nice' is a subjective one based on your background, and coloured by the degree to which you know what goes on 'inside' the relationship. If the other partner is not your 'cup of tea' then it just goes to show that your attraction chemistry works differently to other folk's - as does everyone's.
Finally, as mentioned by others, if a couple attract eachother as much by their differences as their similarities, it wouldn't be unusual for you to find one partner nicer than the other because you are judging them in terms of compatability with your view of 'nice', and not - as they are - judging each other through the filter of romantic love (which hides all sorts of incompatibilities).
But the man or woman who habitually tags up with the other person who is 'seriously' bad for them is simply stuck in a repetitive pattern and would benefit from some professional therapy. It saves a whole heap of heartache and expense, and opens up folk (sometimes) to the possibility for the first time in their lives to a constructive, supportive, truly loving relationship. And it's never too late to get back on the right track.
2006-11-25 09:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by nandadevi9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen theories that say that the such people are looking for the "thrill" or adrenaline rush they got when there were dust-ups or angry episodes (with the rush of anger, tension, and release) when they were kids. They equate that with love so, in essence, they have a warped sense of what it means to love another.
2006-11-25 09:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew the answer to that. I could save a lot of people some serious heartache. Once a heart is broken, it can never be completely fixed again.
2006-11-25 09:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they want to other person to be nice, but the not-so-nice person doesnt want to change for anyone.
2006-11-25 09:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by ducky_lucky_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for all those nice one's.....like me
maybe its bcoz love wants us to meet few wrong poeple or shud i say "not nice people" so that when the right one comes we already know how to appreciate them, accept them and love them...as simple as that.
2006-11-25 09:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by judy abott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
opposites attract, every bad guy or girl all want a good fella or gal somewhere in there circle!
2006-11-25 09:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by mema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adventure ? Some people seek out something exciting, even without realising it - & they do it again & again.
Or possibly because love is blind (& probably deaf & stupid too !) ?
2006-11-25 09:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋