2006-11-25 00:38:43 · 27 answers · asked by CHRISTINE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him sorry for your loss, hug him firmly and tell him you are there for him and make sure you are.
2006-11-25 00:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In eastern philosophy there is a concept that the end of something is the best. Such as if you had a favorite cup and it broke. Rather than feel upset, rather feel all the delight you had from it and the pleasure you had while it was here. Now superimpose the analogy. Get him to think of all the good she was while she was here. Don't think of her as gone, merely realize all the good of her. Say: "I know it hurts that she's gone, but there was so many good times when she was here. Remember all the good times."
2006-11-25 01:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say what you feel but do not try to pretend it has not happened. Tell him that you are sorry as she was such a lovely person and offer him your time to talk to you about her and you listen. The more he talks about her the quicker he will get over this first phase of his grief and able to move on. Be prepared to have tears from him and don't get embarrassed. Encourage every feeling of grief that he has. It's better out than in.
Best of luck.
2006-11-25 00:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't focus on what you say at all. Just give him a huge hug, and let him cry on your shoulder. Anything you mumble out in support will pretty much be the same. There are no magic words that will compensate for his loss or make it better. So just let him know that you are there for him.
2006-11-25 00:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him a hug and the rest will fall in place. If he wants to talk , he will. My husband passed away less than a year ago, so i have been where he is. Just be there for him is the best thing you can do and do not smother him,.
2006-11-25 01:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hug his neck..not much you can say and he can read how you feel and what you want to say by your body language. So just grab him and hold him close..let him know you love him and are there for him if he wants to talk.
2006-11-25 00:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him a hug and say your there for him, does he need help with anything, if he has kids offer to babysit do he can get things sorted out, be a shoulder for him to cry on just let him know you love him and will be there for him...
2006-11-25 02:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say sorry and tell him you are there for him anytime he needs you day or night and you always will be that you cant imagine what he is going thru but you will help him in whatever way possible
good luck
2006-11-28 00:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by aoife k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my husband suddenly, and I know that i want to talk about him, so let your brother talk about his wife, and ask him questions about her. She was married into your family afterall and it'd be nice for him to know you are intersted. all the best.
2006-11-25 00:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kate J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are asking this bunch of dysfunctional internet addicts, the correct way to express emotion towards your own BROTHER.
has the world sunk this low?
2006-11-25 01:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, in a situation like this, silence speaks more than ever words will.
2006-11-25 04:50:11 · answer #11 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋