in a marriage, why do people frown when the woman is the one working?

Question

there are housewives, so why are househusbands frowned upon?

Answer 1

I think is very good for the women to work, no problem

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Answer 2

In my opinion it is because our society has always seen men as the strong figure who bares the brunt of the physical labor while us women are the nurturers and caregivers to the children. If there are children it seems like most people frown on women working and not the men, or even both working, because there seems to be a perception that men cannot be as caring and nurturing as women to give the amount and type of care that is needed for the children. I say if the the husband and wife are comfortable with whatever situatioon they have as far as who raises the kids and who goes and works outside of the home, let them be! What matters is that they are working as a team and things are getting done...despite who is doing what! If everyone is happy...lay off! All that truly matters is how you feel about it and whether you are happy with how things are arranged. No one else has to live your life but you, let others say what they want...be happy and forget others opinion.

Answer 3

It's just the way our history is. The man is the one who is suppose to be doing all the providing and when he isn't...I guess he's not suppose to a man. When my guy got seriously injured at work, it took him over a year to back. He was released 6 months after the accident, but there were some other issues that came along and he just couldn't go back. I had no problem being the only one working and believe me, I put the others who felt they 'needed' to say something about this in their place.
As long as the couple are okay with this arrangement, it is no one else's place to look down on them.

Answer 4

Primitive society was based on women staying on the interior and men setting out to hunt on the exterior of their known environs. This played out continually up until, oh, say, early 1800s, when some women start working in some factories and such. Biology provided the relationship of the woman to be protected and the men to be protectors, thus, the position of interior and exterior. The current interpretation is that a woman is safe in the home and not in the threatening dangerous world. Thus, if it is reversed, as in, the man at home and the woman out and about, he looks like the one being sheltered and protected and she looks like the courageous one. Furthermore, the act of pregnancy caused less mobility so women were inherently more likely to stay at home. Also, women are considered better nurturers of children, so to, they must stay at home. If the man stays at home and the woman leaves its as if she is braver and he is meeker.

Answer 5

you know......i guess some people just love to frown!!!
If it works in a marriage/relationship for the husband to be the 'at home' one then so be it. You can't worry too much about what other people think, you just can't please everybody. I think some people think it's 'proper' for the husband to support the wife who stays home and raises the kids. I think like that mostly.but just because I can't bear the thought of leaving my babies at home to go to work!!! Then again, if I could earn more money than my other half perhaps I might consider it..it'd have to be a LOT more money though!!!!!!! I think whatever works for a couple.they should do.........and let the frowners frown... they'll get more wrinkles than the smilers!!!!!!

Answer 6

I think if their are children (small) in the home, it really does not matter who stays home with them. Either parent is capable. However, if there are no children involved and the women is working and caring for a man, she has some serious issues and so does he. Men need to work, they should not be sitting around having a women take care of them, after they are grown. You can ruin a good man by doing this. God bless****

Answer 7

For one thing it goes back to the begining of time the man always does the work and it is also in the bible a man that dont work dont eat. Think about it in every old movie you have seen on TV it is the same way it is not written in stone it is just a way of life.

Answer 8

I don't know, Every man I've been in a relationship with had a need to "support the family", even if they were single. My husband at first liked the fact that I was going to make a lot of money and could support him while he found his dream. I think it really bothered him, though.

Answer 9

Generally men are supposed to be the bread winner. I think both husband and wife should contribute equally a good man should not want his woman keeping him up. it is just a matter of laziness unless he is disabled.

Answer 10

Actually now-a-days it's difficult to find a household (that'snot falling apart) that has only one person working. A two person income is almost essential to survive! As for me, I'm a workaholic, and don't think I could stay at home all day. My wife could though. I guess it just takes that special kind of person. And please people don't insinuate these people are lazy! It takes allot to stay at home!

By the way "c g" your bordering closely to spam! You don't stop and I'm going to turn your butt in myself!

Answer 11

It is just more common in society for the husband to be the worker.
It does not make it wrong when it is the wife who makes the money.
It is not really a frown...Don't worry about it....
Anyone who is clueless enough to really be bothered about it
isn't worth worrying about anyway...