in order to save on rent, or while saving for your own house, or skip the idea, and be on your own? the disadvantage in living with them, that is that they would observe you carefully, and gossip about you, and your actions will be limited, am i right to feel that way?
2006-11-25 00:15:25 · 10 answers · asked by sandy d 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No way would I live with them. You are right and perfectly justified feeling that way.
2006-11-25 00:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. My husband and I decided that we were ready to step apart from our families and take care of things between ourselves. If we hadn't been ready, we wouldn't have gotten married. The real disadvantage is that when you and your spouse move back into one of the ancestral homes you aren't functioning as a couple; it becomes you, him and everyone else. It IS possible to save money while living on your own.
2006-11-25 05:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by anita.revolution 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband and I stayed with his Mother and Step-father for about a year while preparing to get our own place. I was fortunate to have really great in-laws, both times! In fact I am still in contact with my first in-laws. And my in-laws from my second marriage, have visited with my in-laws from my first marriage.
LOL, when my sisters-in -law in Louisiana, from my first marriage, were out of their home due to Hurricane Katrina, my in-laws from my first marriage, in Texas invited them to come stay with them.
Like I said, "good people". It is difficult living with other people. My first husband and I stayed with my father and step-mother when he first got out of the service. I was pregnant. The situation there was a bit more "irregular". A lot of differences among the household. We got our own place much quicker at that time.
In both instances, we had to subjugate our own tendencies to the rules of the house we were staying in. We contributed a "monthly rent" in each situation, because it does cost them more to have us there. We helped in the household chores daily.
And did our best to stay out of the household "politics" between the members of the household.
It was the "gossip about us" part that was the reason we did not stay long at my father's house. I don't care about standard gossip, I figure "if they are talking about me, then they are giving someone else a rest', but... when their gossip caused me monetary difficulties, I simply went out that day and got an apartment and had us moved in before my husband got home from work that day.
My father knew why we left, the rest of the family were told that it was simply time for us to be out on our own again. Always remember, these people are going to be your relatives for the rest of your life. You can choose you friends but you cannot choose your relatives. Try to stay in good standing with them.
2006-11-25 00:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only in the worst case scenario and it wouldn't last long, like a week maybe because I could find my own place by then even if it's just a studio apartment..
2006-11-25 00:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to do that for about 6 months, it was really bad. I just stayed in my space the whole time. My every move was being monitored or so it seemed.
2006-11-25 00:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not do it. But, I guess it would really all depend on the individuals. Some actually do get along and could do it. For others it would be hell. So it all just depends on wheather you get along or not.
2006-11-25 00:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Shari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not necessary, try to be friends with them, maybe then u'll enjoy their company, take them shopping with u or for parties or outings. U might be surprised and like their company
2006-11-25 00:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Works fine for me.
they pay all the bills, take cake of the kids.
I go out and party all the time. I'm telling ye its great
2006-11-25 00:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't do it. I did that with my first husband, and it's part of the reason why we are no longer married! DO NOT DO IT!!!!
2006-11-25 00:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Large Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are extremely right. id say live elsewhere..
2006-11-25 00:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by bebackhome_safe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋