do u think husband cheating?

Question

ok we had a baby 1 month ago and for 2 weeks now my hubby is acting strange. he never wants to spend time with me or even cuddle with me. when i go close to him he always says he is working on something on the computer so dont bother him. its so furstrating coz that happens every single time. and he never ever initiates anything. also i found a confirmation email in his yahoo account that he signed up for some dating website. when i asked him he said he didnt do it. does that even make sense coz in that account everything matches him except the name. Even the postal code matches. i am so frustraed i cry every day dont know what to do. i dont wanna get suspiciouse but all this is making me liek that . so do youthink he is talking to some other girl. he always comes home on time and hardly goes anywhere. spends time with baby a lot but not me. is it jsut hormones or am i right about him. he has been taking care of him hwo he looks sort of not really ..but still i am going crazy what todo

Answer 1

a cheater indeed, look for somebody else

:> peace
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Answer 2

You should be suspicious of the people who comment on this time who have not been through it.
Normally the doctor requests 6 weeks after birth for any sexual relations. You have been through 2/3 that time. Do you suppose he wishes to go without? No he's doesn't. Looking at websites is not cheating and there is nothing else available to quell his curiosity.
He is home on schedule , taking care of the baby and leaving you to heal. What is he supposed to do?
As for his interest in you, I can tell you that there is NOTHING quite so frustrating as being without the deed for a month and
trying to cuddle and be affectionate knowing that is all that is going to happen. The pregnancy is one thing but for him this 6 weeks is the most brutal part of having children. Cut him some slack.
You might try to relax about this for a while. Here is a novel idea. maybe you can give him some physical reward for taking care of the baby and giving you a little break.

Answer 3

You should find out how long he had the dating account. Some guys find women to be with when a woman is pregnant. Men can be dogs.

I would worry about you right now and try not to focus too much on it. Get back into shape and take care of the baby for now. If he keeps acting like he has no interest in another month or two, bring it up and see what he says. Ask him if he is attracted to you anymore. If he isn't open a yahoo dating account and find another guy.

Answer 4

Your husband is a little crazy now. He had a cute sexy wife. Then, he had a pregnant woman living with him. Now he has a new mother and a baby. These changes have made him lose his mind. This happens often, and doesn't last long. Men recover, and usually regain their senses quickly. Now, the on line dating thing isn't the same. That IS a big deal. Not a marriage breaker YET, but a true danger signal. You also are a little crazy now. Motherhood does that. You have a load of hormones affecting you. I doubt your husband is cheating. Give him a little time to regain his sanity, and you two may dance together at your grand daughter's wedding.

Answer 5

Ive been there, i let my own insecurities of myself almost ruin my marriage. If you are on him about everything, well you'll surely make things worse. Cook a sexy dinner, get a bottle of wine and lite a few candles, give him a massage and just try to be close. I found that no matter what i looked like, and ive had 6 kids--if i feel sexy about me, well every ones happy. I will say if he comes home, and your in a good mood maybe do stuff to make him feel loved, like pour him a glass of his favorite drink ( soda juice) etc. And give him time to unwind, well things will get better. No matter what , if he wanted to be some were else, he would be there. Baby's bring love joy, and stress of income problems, he may feel alot of pressure to do whats right. he may also be stressed because he's working and with a new baby, rest is slim to none.
and word to the wise, forget about the email you say you found, and push harder to make love happen if that's truly what you want. hes home right. keep him there dint push him away with jealousy.You ll start to feel better as soon as your body gets back to somewhat normal. It don't take long.. good luck

Answer 6

So why would it be important to prove infidelity just to get divorced? If he provides financial security now, then a judge would expect him to provide that after divorce. My feeling is he doesn't have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and doesn't even call home to check on the kids? Great Dad you chose for your children. Call it quits and focus on yourself and your children. File for divorce so you can get an order for child support for the kids and you can start getting your life back on track. Who cares if he's a cheater. He's obviously not a good husband or a good father. Don't waste any more time.

Answer 7

I know your problem.

My mom had the same questions as you.

What she did is there is a spy program you may download to track every website, email and message sent over the computer, that is a hidden program and can be access is hold down keys of your choice.

She showed me it once and she found out what he was doing. Im not saying it was right but sometimes you need to brake the trust issue to make you feel more at ease.

If you do not do something it will eat you away.

Here is a site for a spy software.

http://www.e-spy-software.com/

Good Luck

Answer 8

Could be that he is afraid of being intimate with you right now because he does not want to take a chance getting you pregnant again so soon. Maybe he feels that if he keeps his distance he does not have to deal with his desires for you.
Give him some time, you just had the baby and you are dealing with all kind of emotions right now. You married him for a reason, give him the benefit of the doubt for now.

Answer 9

I caught my x- wife doing the same thing with the online dating. Of course she denied it, so what i did is set up an account, and replied to her account, she went for it and I made copies of all the things that she said. In a few weeks I showed it to her, she freaked out, I divorced her, I don't need anyone in my life that I can't trust.

Answer 10

first off, I can understand. a lot.

secondly.... go visit your primary care physician. Talk to him, and see if you need a mild antidepressant. Having kids can make your body goofy for a few months. I had post partum depression after having both kids. Paxil was my friend for awhile.

thirdly: is your husband intimidated by the baby? did he want a baby in the first place?

My husband said he wanted kids, but he didn't do a darn thing for them. He, too, had accounts on dating websites.

Answer 11

Insist that you two go to counseling together. Having a baby can be stressful on a marraige. Men are buggers about expressing their feelings. Perhaps with counseling he will open up.