Husband left me 3 weeks ago. No cheating on either side. Told me I didn't pay enough attention to him & he's hurt too much to reconcile. Dropped blank divorce papers off 3 weeks ago for ME to fill out.
He called to wish me a happy thanksgiving. I admitted my wrongdoings. Told him I was consulting an attorney (I don't know what I'm doing). He went ballistic.
Then he calmed down. Started crying and crying. Told me to call him tomorrow to keep him company on his 6 hour drive home.
Is he being nice because he cares? Because he doesn't want me to sue his ***? Because he feels guilty for leaving me when I had no job & I had to drop some classes (emotionally devasated. I'm better now)?
2006-11-24 23:13:40 · 9 answers · asked by Calc44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suggest you stop talking or dealing with him. It IS very possible that this is a silly snit of a male crisis. Give your husband another couple weeks to regain his senses- IF you want him back. Then, file for divorce, change the locks, and keep a video recorder handy, and a camera. Use a recorder on the phone to document things he says. You MAY be on your own. Take care of YOU. You were correct to see the attorney
2006-11-24 23:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be depressed (the crying gives it away) or he could be trying to control you - either way, you don't need this. Don;t engage in calling him or otherwise having conversations with him: he might want to know what you are planning, how far the proceedings are going and in what direction etc. Let the lawyers handle everything and you go back to your classes! I suspect that your classes and desire to make something of your life may have threatened him in some way and again this comes back to control. You cannot progress in life with a man who wants to hold you back in this way, Good luck!
2006-11-25 07:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was feling neglected been there before. The papers may have been sent to you as an eye opener. Just so you could see what could happen,not for you to go to a lawyer. The guilt should be on your part for not paying him any attentio in th efirst place better fix it before it is too late that is if you still love him better try to keep him!!!
2006-11-25 08:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be taken to the cleaners,and figures you will just break up and go your own way.You did right by getting a lawyer and deserve your share of what the marriage brought both of you.Break off all contact with him,if he has anything to say let him tell it to your lawyer.Get your divorce and move on.He left you and that's his lost,not yours.Good luck whatever you do.
2006-11-25 07:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not want you to go to a lawyer cause he knows you will know what you are entitled to then ? that is why he is crying and whining . I am sorry that he left you but he made that choice and go for it get an attorney cause if he walked out on you then he is the jerk . good luck and god bless and happy holidays .
2006-11-25 08:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had some nerve to ask you to call him. You're not his entertainment, and from the way he cries worse than a baby, that should be enough to turn any woman off. Forget what his motives are, you gotta look out for Numero Uno.
2006-11-25 07:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a midlife crisi to me try talking everything through or go to counselling but try and stand up for oyurself and let him run the realtionship because he works and brings in the money
2006-11-25 07:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Snuckems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have been kind of ignoring him, and haven't been a good wife.
His actions indicate that he wants YOU to change.
So maybe its about time........you woke up !!!!!!
Perhaps you should make him feel important...after all you did marry the guy, and he married YOU !!!!!
2006-11-25 07:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by wombat2u2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to be in control. Or he does not want you to move on with your life while he moves on with his. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2006-11-25 07:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋