How do you know a lady loves you for you and not for your money?

Question

I am a doctor in the US .with my level of IQ you'd think that i'd be able to tell when a girl is really into me and when she has an eye on my wallet. but the truth is that I have no clue.
There is this girl I met not too long ago. She is as sweet as can be but she has a lot of debts. She owes every credit card company. she likes expensive trips, expensive stuff,She dosent seem to care how she spends money. she wants the best in clothes and shoes even though she dosent earn that much. so it becomes a problem knowing if she wants me for me or she wants me for my money. Is there a defnitive test out there for me to find out one way or the other? I dont want to sound uptight or cheap. and I dont want to sound paranoid but I need help

Answer 1

I think you have a problem. You have already made the comment that she owes every credit card company, and likes the expensive stuff, etc. Does she have a job, a way to pay for this stuff. She is spending more than she is making. From what you are saying on here, she is after your money.

Do you your self like the down to earth type of stuff? Well try this and see what happens: Take her out to eat at McDonald's once in awhile, take her shopping to Wal-Mart, go for walks in the park, set at home a few times and watch a movie together on the sofa. What I am saying here is have fun and do "fun" things BUT very cheap fun. Ask her is she cooks at home or goes out to eat all the time. Ask her if she has ever worked in the garden or yard, that is a good sign there to see how she will react to that. If she ever makes a comment about doing some of the finer things in life instead of doing this cheaper stuff, then I would say that she is after your money and how sad that would be.

With me I am satified with the cheaper stuff and staying at home, working in the garden and yard work. As a matter of fact, lets say that I did met someone that had "money" so what, I would rather live the cheaper life and grow things in a garden, go to McDonald's for a .99 burger, buy a pair of jeans at Wal-Mart for 9.99. I can make money stretch, and have fun too. Don't get me wrong, it is nice to have money when you do need it. Like if some thing brakes, you can either get it fixed or get a new one, but that is different.

Well I hope I have been of some help to you with this, heck, I'm just a good old country woman myself. I don't need the finer things in life. Money don't buy love, it don't keep you warm on a cold night.

Answer 2

She is a Golddigger. I do not/ will not date a woman who knows how much money or land I own. I don't "flash" what I have, don't look the part. I would tell them you are a plumber or something like that. If you say Doctor, then first thing that comes to mind is money.

I have had them come up and sit with me, first qustion they ask is if I work. I don't lie and tell them no, then they leave real fast. They assume right away that one is on welfare. That is one sign of a gold digger. How she dresses, acts and wants.

If she's is into you for you and not money, she's happy going to Burger King instead of an expensive place, means more to her to be with you. I found a place to find a good woman, but there are also golddiggers there so I don't tell what I have. I met my wife there, she knows everything I own and still wants to make homemade clothes, work, keep house. She is not intrested in the big rings, diamonds and such, we have simple and plain weddings rings. Not the kind of rings one would figure for someone who has 2+ mil in the bank cash and land in the tropics.

Answer 3

Well it looks to me like you are the one making a big deal out of nothing. From what you have written, she hasn’t spent your money or ran up your bills yet. You really are thinking too much about the type of lifestyle she lives. Like someone else said, I bet it was her high class living that attracted her to you in the first place. You need to stop thinking about these little issues and concentrate on building a great relationship with her since you said she is really sweet. Don’t mess things up by thinking too much about money. If you are that comfortable and want to spend money on her, go on and do that. If you don’t feel the need to, then keep that to yourself but don’t let that be a problem. Believe me, a guy that really likes a woman would get her good things and even go as far as helping her out with her bills if and when he can. Trust me, taking her to Wal-Mart like the other guys suggested would not help the matter at all. I bet you wouldn’t want her to make you change your lifestyle just because you met her. Think things through and make sure you are making the right decisions. Remember, good girls are hard to find and no one is perfect. I guess that’s the irony of life. I hope I wasn’t too harsh on my comments. Good luck with everything and let us know if this means was helpful or not.

Answer 4

This isn't rocket science. A woman that likes to spend money, runs up debts, and favors expensive things- but doesn't earn the money to afford the stuff, needs a sugar daddy. So, since you are well off, your money is obviously at least a factor in her attraction to you. Try telling her that you are thinking about spending some years running a clinic in Zambia, or some other poor nation. Wax eloquently about how you'll care for the poor. Her reaction should shed some light on her motivation for your relationship.

Answer 5

she sounds like she is a compulsive spender and she has had this problem before you came along. But in all, if she loves you for you, she would be willing to cop the bill sometimes or at least split the bill without having to be asked to do so. If all she does is takes then you may want to move unless you want to be forever in debt.

Answer 6

See sweety, u urself say she is sweet.(trust ur judgement)

Next think is she spends more than she earns - that her lifestyle. these types of girls beleive in 100% in whtever they do, either it is give or take , exmpl: 00% in taking debts, 100% in spending money, 100% in earning, 100% in loving, everythng they do is upto their extremes.

Just judge her that does she spend on others - Money selfish ppl never spend on others.

Also keep in mind that if she takes money from u, its nt just bcaz she is there with u for money. its bcaz she considers u as her own part.

If u r just playing around with her control ur pocket nd if u r looking for a serious tie up thn ask her cleary " what vil be her reaction if in future u guys dont hv money".

If her reply is clear like " dont worry ths vil never happe till im there with u" She is rite girl nd she want u for u and nt money,but if she starts cross questioning u....thn ALARM for u..

pls mail me im curious to know more.

Best of Luck

Answer 7

Tell u what,in my eye this girl wants your money...i've seen a lot of guys drinking in pub...esspecially lawyers and doctors....they go there to drunk themselves...when they are drunk they say all their problems with whoever is next to them....most of their problems are pay debts for girl friend,girl friend took all his account money,girl friend borrow money and escaped even more.... that person who talk to me when he was drunk was a doctor...he said he paid alot of debt for his girl friend until his is broke....so be AWARE!!!

Answer 8

Hhhhmm she sounds like a compulsive spender...and you have good reason to be concerned. If the relationship becomes serious...pull out a pre-nup...that will determine her love for you.

Answer 9

How's this for a definite test. Send me your money, if she still loves you then you know it's you not your money. On the other hand if she shows up on my door step I'll call you with the bad news.

PS sorry, best idea I have.

Answer 10

Sure is,keep your money to yourself.If you begin to have relationship problems because of money(the lack of what you give\loan) That will show you.