im in a group of friends and we hang out all the time especially during lunch and gym class (coz we are all in the same modules) and one of my closest friend ask me if she could talk to me alone and then she told me that she likes me i was surprised coz she looks definitely like a normal girl to me and i became speechless for a long time and i think i hurt her coz she ran back to the gym where our class is and when i followed her and looked at her shes looking away.... wut do you think should i do? i dont want to leave it that way... im so confused....
2006-11-24 22:48:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i havent got a chance to talk to her... i felt like shes avoiding me in some ways even when were hanging out... the fact is i didnt tell anyone about that day... even at home i never talk about it coz i will never forgive myself if i did... can you blame me for reacting that way? im surprised and that was unexpected... shes my partner for almost everything especially at school coz we were all at the same modules and we play the same sports and she even volunteer to be my partner in this coming badminton season coz i dont want to play single... shes important to me and i dont wanna lose her... and if i go with a realationship with her wut will happen next?can we handle that? wut if it didnt work wuts gonna happen? wut if it only makes it worse? aggggggghhhhh its so freakin confusing... does liking me makes her gay?
tnx for the advice... it somehow helps...
2006-11-25 15:27:07 · update #1
Lesbianism or bisexuality can't be recognized nor does it have any identifying marks ,,,, You either are or you aren't ,,,, Personally if I were you I'd feel flattered ,,,, I would tell her this too if that's the case ,,,, I mean how many people do you have tell you that they really like you for what ever reason ,,,, If you don't have the same tendency's or your mind isn't open to such a thing as that then be honest and frank with her about it ,,,, I don't think it's something to be upset or insulted about at all ,,,, You have here a person that has opened herself up to you ,,,, It probably took all the courage she could muster plus some to admit this to you ,,,,, She has made herself vulnerable to you by admitting this because of her obvious strong feelings for you ,,,, She probably feels wounded now and scared because of your reaction as she doesn't understand what your reaction meant ,,, You said she told you she wanted to talk to you alone ,,,, That tells me she wanted what she was going to tell you to remain a secret between just the two of you ,,,, She might feel down and bleeding now ,,,, Are you going to betrey her by revealing her secret ?? ,,,, Will you walk all over her and pour salt in the wound now and hurt her just that much more because of this ,,,,?? You said she is one of your closest friends ,,,, has anything changed your feelings now where she's concerned ,,,, If you like this girl or are worried about her feelings at all then try to let her down as easily as can ,,,, Don't let her linger or be worried and scared about what happens next ,,,, Do this as quickly as possible ,,,, Don't let her agonize over this ,,,, speak openly to her and let her know what you truly feel ,,,, There's no reason to ruin a perfectly good friendship because of this kind of admission ,,,, Try to put yourself in her place ,,,, Try to imagine how you would feel and conduct yourself accordingly when dealing with this ,,,, Above all ,,,, just try to be kind and understanding ,,,, If you feel it then let her know that everything is alright and that there's no problem ,,,, Do this in a face to face meeting with just the two of you like it was when she told you about this in the first place ,,,, Don't let her run away until you've explained yourself ,,,, She was honest with you in revealing her feelings for you ,,,, So if your friendship with her means or has meant anything to you at all then be honest and understanding with her ,,,, You'll feel better for it and the friendship between the two of you will be just that much stronger because the two of you now share a secret ,,,,
2006-11-25 00:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a more than friendly relationship. Do you kiss her? Maybe just kiss her one time, and see where it leads. That might be easier than straight out asking. A lot of people freak out when asked, especially if they aren't ready to be out of the closet. Sometimes it's easier to get physical than to have to talk about it.
2016-03-29 08:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, she is your friend so treat her like one. Talk to her and encourage her to confide in you. I guess she needs someone to talk to about this and plucked up the courage to approach you.
Just because she says likes you doesn't necessarily means she is full on gay and wants to bed you.. Maybe it;s just a phase?
You should feel flattered that she finds you attractive.. Go easy on her, show some compassion and tell her how YOU feel and no matter what that you are still her friend.
Good luck
2006-11-25 00:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by crimson king 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you don't go that way and girls have no interest for you in that way. On the other hand why not experiment? Your young and just because you experimented with a girl doesn't mean your evil. Just remember gay breakups can be among the worst on the planet, don't tell her you love her if you don't mean it.
2006-11-24 22:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can not tell if someone is gay or not by their looks. If you are straight just say so and tell her you still want to be friends you can be friends with a gay person dont get all tied up in knots over it. Try not to hurt you friends feelings.
2006-11-24 22:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her....tell her what your feelings are....she is probably embarrassed and feels badly that she opened up to you...Let her know that it is ok and that the conversation will stay between the two of you but be honest about your feelings for her...if she is just a friend and you are not interested in her because she is a woman...tell her that...be kind, be gentle but be truthful....good luck
2006-11-24 22:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to her, the two of you are friends. And if you are not gay, then explain this to her. The two of you can remain friends, however, the relationship will not progress in the direction she would like because you are not gay! Just do it and the rest is history! Forgotten. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-24 23:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you are now curious, go for it. The experience can't hurt and if you don't you'll regret it. Have a long talk first to try to maintain the friendship when the lust fades.
2006-11-24 22:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you had done so bad. you have already told that she was yr closest friend so if you could not say yes that was ok but it was yr responsibility to support her , to take care of her b coz think that she is normal girl nd tell that she likes you means she trusts nd you
broke her trust. and liking is work of heart nd heart can flows in anyones
2006-11-24 23:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by anand 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to each other own, just don't ever try anything funny with you. If she abides by that, you and her will get along just fine.
2006-11-24 23:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋