help with Christmas !!?

Question

On November 24th of 2006 I was told it was told by the salvation Army that it is too late for Christmas help for my Child. She is 12 years old. She may not believe in Santa But she is expecting gifts. (It is hard when she is at the age to not understand rent and electic has to come first. The local churches says they have no money, the salvation army says I am 3 weeks too late ,and toys for tots said they have only small children toys. All I get is dead ends. (Toys for tots says she is a little too old, they have only smaller children toys.) I don't get no public assistance because my wage is enought for two people. I am a single mom and I make only $8.oo an hour.) I can't even go to the dollar store because my money is so tight. (Since winter is comming the electric has increased.) Can any one help with advice???

The Red Cross and United way here is related to the Salvation Army. I have no family. And I have no boyfriend. I don't need to confuse our lives with a man. I just want to finish raining my child. I have gone through the whole phonebook and called all Churches. (Except 7th day..I get no answer there..I will keep trying.) I am very close with my daughter, but she deserves something. Her dad is an Alcoholic and has a bad liver.) I became Independent because I needed do better than the welfare system. My job does not permit us to get another job. (I hope to change jobs next year.) This is a small town, everyone knows what everyone does. (If I tried to go to Wal-mart, well everyone goes to wal-mart.) That is the only department store here ) But I do thank everyone who gave me kind words. It is so very hard to be strong sometimes when this season comes. I have to be cheerful and I plan on us baking cookies. I have to make myself happy around her. (But she has Christmas Wishes too.) D

Answer 1

Tell me what you want to give her and I will buy it for you. No Joke. Email me [e-mail]

Answer 2

Explain to your daughter that Christmas is a time to spend with family and be happy for all the things that are good in the world... just dont watch the news that day... Maybe make "origami" from old magazine pages, thats a fun present that doubles as a toy or precious keepsake... do her make up, make bracelets from yarn, draw or paint something? I know these may sound like terrible ideas but in years to come (if she still has them) she'll look back on this time and think "Wow my Mother really loved me and always tried to make Xmas a loving time for us" If you were my neighbour I'd help you out... I cant stand the way government & pension departments do that to us parents and expect us to give our children the quality of life they deserve! You could always email Oprah? She does some amazing things for children in situations like this? Email me tell me how things go? [e-mail]

Answer 3

Wow..I understand your situation..I was a single mom as well..after rent, car pymt, car ins, daycare, food, and numerous other bills i had nothin left for christmas even with overtime i was still behind..my son was 4 and he does believe in santa. My grand parents helped out best they could as did my mother and sister, but he still had very little for his age. so we made cookies together for santa and left out carrots for the reindeer. I taught him about the importance of Christmas and the true meaning..he was very greatful for what he got even tho it was all mostly clothes. I had to talk to him tho and tell him he wasnt bad but there was a lot of other little boys and girls in much more need so Santa brought what he needed the most and he brought the one gift my son really wanted (a dump truck) My son was very understanding of this important lesson and it has stuck with him ever since. Talk to your daughter..I know she is past the santa stage, but do some arts and crafts with her and teach her the true meaning behind Christmas. Spend time with her over the holidays and let her know its not about the materialistc things, but rather the family and the birth of Jesus.

Keep your chin up..it will get better!

Answer 4

Some thoughts, I hope will help. One is Catholic Charities. You do not have to be Catholic, but give them a call and ask for help for your daughter. Get the number from a local parish. Contact your local fire station and ask if there is any help there, sometimes they have independent drives. Also, make your situation known at work. One year when my daughters were very small, I had no idea how to pay for anything for them. I was not working and my husband made nothing extra. His co-workers chipped in for a modest christmas for us. I know not every company is as generous, but it doesn't hurt to ask. I would also talk to her teacher or counselor at school and see if they do anything for families in your situation.

Answer 5

Sorry to hear that, sadly alot of people are going thru this, I think everyone has been there at one time or another..Check out all the local organizations in your area that could help churches,library,ect.I live in a very small town and i know of 2 churches that help needy families this time of year in our area.Good luck and i wish you the best this holiday season

Answer 6

if its that important you have time to get a second job if you tried hard enough, like a little part time job 3 or 4 hours a day for a week, just enough to get something.have you tried burger king McDonald's,don't ask for hand outs when you can do it yourself a little motivation is all it takes. its not like you have to do it forever, hell even wal-mart may be hiring seasonal help.i raised three children on my own and for less then $8.00 an hour and they always had a great Christmas.

Answer 7

Christmas is not about spending money on your child. You can still make a great time of it by spending time, doing things and showing love to this child. At 12 years old, I think she would understand that the best gift she could recieve is you, your time and your love. To know you were always there for her.

Answer 8

Do you have any relatives or friends that can help. The community center, your school. Try these places. I understand as I was a singel mom of two back in the 70's and made min wage and had no assistance either. It is hard, but you can do it. God Bless

Answer 9

Have you checked United Way, American Red Cross, your child's grandparents, any large church's groups .. ie: senior citzens, youth groups and the like ...

Answer 10

need talk to somebody i hope have merry christmas