2006-11-24 22:32:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Shake the snot out of them; then call the Therapist! That is just not normal! They would only be doing this for attention! I would say that there is definitely something lacking at home. This would be a sign of desperation and a cry for help!
2006-11-25 02:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id probably do a couple different things first if its my son id call the gfs mother and tell her you dont think either one of them is ready and take her to get the depo preva shot good for 3mths at a time or if it was vice versa id do the same thing. next i would call around look for new mothers in the area and talk to the mother of a new child and have the teens take care of them under supervison of course if not realiable and have them do everything, bath, feed, change clothes etc. do that let them know they cant go out or anything they have to do their homework etc. practice parenting can be difficult so maybe they will change their minds. also if you have a daughter take her to some women that guys wanted to have a baby and left when they got pregnant. theres some many things you can do but again these our you children so you know them best. Take the girl in to the hospital show her what hard work it is just to have a baby. lastly let them know that there are tons of people out there that are finacially stable and older that our trying to have children and cant for whatever reason and that each child deserves the best. they should wait grow up and go to college etc then think of having a child. It cost well over 520,000 to raise a baby from the time they are born till 18. good luck hopefully they will get the pic and this will help
2006-11-25 09:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it was my daughter that was trying to get pregnant I would take her to the doctor and have her given the Depo shot. Birth control for three months. I know that sounds harsh but I'd be looking out for the well being of my teen. Then I'd sit down with her and her boyfriend and ask why and what their plan was. Then I'd get them a puppy and have them raise the puppy first. I really have no idea why teens want to have kids. I had my first baby at 21 and that was still too young. Talk to the girl's parents if it's your son. See what they have to say. But if it was my daughter I'd take her to get the Depo shot and prevent it myself.
2006-11-25 08:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tara C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my 14 year old son was trying to get his girlfriend pregnant, I'd be kicking them both up the ar$e! They are way too young to be thinking about sex, let alone having a baby! I had my first baby at 20 and that was a struggle!
2006-11-25 10:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my son was trying to make his girlfriend pregnant(with her agreement) I would talk with him(or both of them) and ask about the reasons and try to understand what are they trying to reach.Because behind the behavior there are reasons which parents should try to find out.
If my son was trying to get his girlfriend pregnant without her agreement I don't see how would I have understood about that,but let's say I have understood somehow(???).I would try to talk to him and again find out why does he want that.After I find out,I would help him get over the ideas motivating his behavior.
If the girl was trying to get pregnant,the problem would be bigger because that way she would make HERSELF,not anyone else pregnant and the baby would be HERS and if she breaks up with the boy,the baby will still be with her.If she wants to get pregnant she might need more love and that way,trying to love someone(the baby) who will answer her love.She also may feel that she is miserable(and having the baby as her property would give her power over somebody).She may be angry and that way trying to get pregnant out of spite,because the parents have punished or beated her a lot.That way she would prove nobody can control her.
In the last version - when she and the boy love each-other - if she is younger than 16-17 I wouldn't be pleased of the idea and would try to talk to her about the future,how she may love another guy after some time no matter now she thinks he is the only guy she'll ever love.If after that she still wants the child,I would tell her everything about growing up a child - diepers,crying at night,feeding,the whole time which has to be spend with the child,then when the child goes to school,school - books,etc,I would mention when the child has problems she would have to help him solve them,after she has a child she would have to look after him/her and take all the care,babysitters,money and who the child will love more...If she is older than 16 I would offer her find a job,because if she decides to have a baby,she has to be able to grow him/her up.That needs money.Of course I'll explain her again about the cares which all children need,then I'll talk to her about her education and how after having the child she may not want to continue her education.I'll mention how her coevals will go to parties,discos and have plenty of boyfriends,while she will have to stay at home and rock to sleep a baby.After all,if she decides to have the baby(and find a job of course),I wouldn't love her less.I'd love her and the baby:)
2006-11-25 08:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would ground them and not let them see each other for as long as that idea is in their head. I mean, please! How can you be a proper parent with all the school work and stuff you have to do as a teen? And you should enjoy your teenage years and not be tied down by having to take care of a child and besides, how much can a teen earn by taking up a part-time job?!
2006-11-25 07:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Clemence 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for 1 I would ask them why they are tryin to do it, and 2 if they think they can afford a baby and 3 just try to talk them out of it until they are older and can manage a baby...
2006-11-25 16:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find with change in the body its parents moral resposibility that they should give them proper guidence and knowleage about sex.
as teen age have more curiosity about there body by giving them proper sex knowledage they will not do the mistake.
but if its happened made him realise that how much problem happens if such thing happens.
so that he will not do mistake in future.
2006-11-25 06:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by VKS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make them give you proof that they can support the child. and i would make them live up to it. if they expect you to take care of them and their child, they better think again. i would say if you get pregnant or make a baby, your on your own! and stick to it. Too bad if they have to get a job or go on welfare, if they are old enough to make the baby then they are old enough to take care of it.
2006-11-25 06:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by EAT! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ground them and make sure they can't go out the house whatsoever! oh and also i would kick them out at 18 no ifs ands or buts, and they got pregnant i would kick them out the house as soon as they told me they were pegnant!
2006-11-25 09:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by Virgin 4 Marriage! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋