how to make yourself strong so that you do not depend on anybody else for emotional support?:)?

Answer 1

Time. It takes time. And despite what some other posts say, I think that having inner strength which is independent of external support is VERY important. You are the only person who is going to be with you for your entire life, no matter how loved you are by your family, friends, boyfriend, whoever, they are impermanent. Things change, sadly, people die, and circumstances do not always allow us access to those we love and look to for support. I am not saying that you need to let go of all external sources of comfort/support, but that it IS a good idea to be able to derive a significant portion of this from your own self.
For me the first step towards this form of, for lack of a better word, enlightenment, was to realize the impermanence of all those around me. This does not negate the value of these relationships, but it does free your mind to put things into proper perspective. You are the only permanent, therefore you must take priority (although if you are a parent, this is a flexible boundary, sometimes the kid, sometimes you). Don't compromise things that will bring you happiness or success on a whim to make someone else happy, because they like you, for the most part, need to find happiness within themselves. Its a matter of persepective. Give yourself credit when you do well, and don't beat yourself up too much when things go wrong.. you like everyone else were not born with all the answers and life is a learning process. It's hard to clearly state what the answer is here, but it involves making friends with yourself, recognising all the wonderful qualities that you possess independent of anyone else, and having a true (intuitive) understanding that the world is change and as such any external validation is impermanent and as such not nearly as valuable as your own acceptance of yourself.
Believe in yourself and your ability to overcome, it is inherent in all of us, we have this inner strength, we just forget sometimes.
I leave you with this:
You are a good person, you are strong, and you know what is best for you. Life brings good as well as bad, but in time all these things will pass. Find joy in the simple things and peace in yourself, and know that whatever time shall bring, change will ensure this will not be so forever. All things pass, and you have it within yourself to not only withstand the hardships in life, but to overcome and benefit from them. This is true.

Answer 2

Know that at the end of the day no matter what people say or think about you, you are a good person. and those who try to put you down is because they dont want you to be who you were really born to be.
Then read a lot. Read books that encourage you to be the best that you can be.

Also make a commitment to be the best that you can be and always know that there are times in life when you will be tested and bad things will happen.
Always prepare yourself for such eventualities and promise yourself to always fight back to lead life and be who you really wanted to be.

www.greatday.com (I visit this site when I feel like am about to lose it.)

Answer 3

News Flash! It is neither desirable, nor healthy as a human being to be so strong that you do not need other human beings for emotional support. It is healthy to have self-esteem and to have confidence in yourself....knowing that you can and do honor and take care of yourself. BUT we are taking this "I don't need anyone, because I have me" stance waaaay too far.

Everyone needs and should seek emotional support now and then. Moderation in ALL things.

Answer 4

It's good to make yourself strong and independent, but I really think that 'emotion' is based on our experiences in the context of others. This is just me, but I think emotional support can only come from another person.

Answer 5

You have to go through the process of emotional support, only then you will get to know what heart-break/heart-burn terms are all about ! And after facing these events, the strength you will derive will be beneficial for you (later portion of your life).
Don't fear the inevitable. Face it with brevity. Do not grieve over the past. But focus on the present. And even do not plan future, which always remain unpredictable.

Answer 6

Is that what you really want to do? It is good to be stong but you need support from your family and friends. One person can not be that strong. From time to time you will need help. Other people with get the wrong impression of you, you will become very isolated from your friends. When you need help ask for it. You may end up keeping all of your problems locked up in you and one day exploding.

Answer 7

see, let me give a small example. what do we do to make the body muscles strong? we exercise and make that part of the body work harder than anything.after it experiences all the pain, it becomes strong. treat your mind like a muscle.it seems u are afraid of something.but trust me,to make yourself strong to not to depend upon others for emotional support, u need to stop trusting people. the moment u stop trusting people, u don't depend upon them.

Answer 8

Education, so that you are continually growing and can support yourself financially - which will lead to independence in all areas of your life.

It doesn't need to be formal - just keep opening yourself to knowledge and continue moving forward and you will have the strength you are seeking.

I am working on this myself:) It's when your life is stagnant and feels out of your control that problems arise and you feel weak. Or at least that's my reasoning.

Answer 9

Take a look around you and watch other people and the problems that they have. Then tell yourself screw that, they can't even hande their own lives let alone help someone else. So when it comes to your life, you'll just take care of everything yourself!

Answer 10

Even I am thinking of ways to forget someone and make myself strong. U know its a really difficult thing to do. But, trying to concentrate on other things and indulging in other activities surely can help you a lot.