can guys be too nice?

Question

Im 21 years old and already iv had my fair share of relationships, im a caring and giving person and i just like to me the other person happy, but when ever i get into a relationship it starts great but then ends within a few months with no reason from the girl at the time. if i break up with a girl i tell them why but girls never seem to give a proper reason so men never know what to do better next time. some help would be much appreciated, thanks

Answer 1

Yup - women hate woosses. Treat em mean, keep em keen.

And lots of rude sex too. Men aren't the only ones with primative urges you know.

Answer 2

initially, some women seem to prefer the more exciting, confident, dangerous, testosterone-driven man, even if there is not much of a relationship

later on, some women may prefer to settle down with a more stable, caring guy who will support a long-term relationship

so, i think caring guys loose out initially to the more "alpha" males, but are much sought after later on, so be patient and persistent

i think this is discussed in books such as "women who love too much" & the Venus & Mars type books

Answer 3

Hon, there doesn't have to be a reason that is put in words. Some times it is just time to move on. You are stil very young. give yourself time to find the right match. You will know when it happens.

Yeah, a guy can be too nice....which usually feels like he is fake being nice and not really genuine.

Answer 4

Yeah you can be way too nice. Sometimes it pays to be a little more mysterious than havin smoochie face right off. Downright pathetic. The girl is there to be wooed by you, not to constantly reject people. It's not even a big deal to get a girl. Too easy, in fact. My screens rocking back and forth as I type this cuz I took Ambien.

Answer 5

I completly agree with you i am always honest when it comes to ending, i would tell them why its only fair. I asked my bf why he ended with me and he would not tell me yes if they tell you you dont make the same mistakes again. Or perhaps they just dont want to hurt your feelings but hten you keep wondering is there something so terrible i keep being dumped. Only one bf has every told me he said i wasnt affectionate , so from then on i would be straight with men and say that public shows of affection werent me and they were fine with it. So i think it is good to be told why you are being dumped and congrations on being a man who tells a women why you are ending it there should be more like you out there!

Answer 6

yes and no, i think if a man is really nice , like in thoughtful, caring and buying gifts all the time , then maybe some women would end up taking it for granted and just thinking then no matter what they do you` ll still be nice , so you can be nice and treat a girl well without being too nice , like dont be a doormat,, all the best

Answer 7

Yes they can. Some girls like the bad guy, and they may bot be attracted to you. You really don't need a reason from a girl who's not interested, move on!

Answer 8

I don't think you can ever be too nice, but being nice doesn't mean people can walk all over you. You have to be strong and tell your GF's when you're unhappy or disagree with something they do - and not constantly put their feelings above your own. There has to be a balance. You have to make yourself happy too honey x

Answer 9

Yes I think some guys are way to giving in the beginning and it makes girls think he is a push over.

Answer 10

Ask for a reason!!!!
Why do we always do the blame game?
every girl is different so what may not of worked with one can be ok with another.