how should i convince my boyfriend?

Question

i am topper in my class. how to make my boyfriend study well..he loves me alot but he enjoys a lot. how to make him think about his career

Answer 1

There is nothing that you can do other than talk to him. You don't want to nag him. He isn't going to do anything that he doesn't want to keep in mind. If he doesn't take life seriously and wants to goof off, then you need to think about who you are with if you are concerned about that type of thing with him.

Answer 2

I find it very common that women are toppers, but don't every call a man a "bottom", we're offended by that. Don't make him think about his career. If you're still with him when his career starts, you'll be complaining that it's all he thinks about.

Answer 3

``Live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!'' It seems that there is nothing that would stimulate a man's sense of responsibleness more than this maxim, which invites him to imagine first that the present is past and, second, that the past may yet be changed and amended. Such a precept confronts him with life's finiteness as well as the finality of what he makes out of both his life and himself.


well if you really look forward to help him to study or get him concentrate there s hard work on your side
you must be knowing his interests
so you ll have to somehow merge studies and interests together for him which will get him to study
make him a timetable or read articles


1. Learn the causes of poor concentration and decide which apply to you.
2. Understand what you can do to control these factors.
3. Make your control habitual. Even if you lapse into old habits of distraction and daydreaming, keep insisting of yourself that you concentrate using these controls until you can routinely concentrate well on your studies for fifty minutes of every hour.

Learn the Causes Control the Causes
External Causes Environmental distractions: TV, chairs that are too comfortable, snacks, other people, etc. Leave or re-arrange a distracting environment. Go to a library or a classroom when you seriously intend to study.
Noise: Music with words, conversations Train yourself to study away from others and in silence.
Internal Causes Physical distractions: hunger, drowsiness. Plan to study when you are most alert. Eat a high-protein snack. Do five minutes of light exercise to wake up.
Boredom, dislike, disinterest Find a reason that satisfies you for taking the class; talk with other students and the professor.
Anxiety about studies Make sure you know how to study effectively. Put the course in perspective.
Intimidating study tasks Break up large tasks into achievable subtasks. Do the most intimidating task first. Give yourself rewards for progress.
Daydreaming Separate daydreams from studying. When your mind starts to wander, write down the interrupting thought and continue studying. Or, recall important points and then turn away from your book and continue to daydream. When you're ready to read again, do so. The trick is not to daydream and read at the same time.
Personal worries Identify and define the problem and develop a concrete, specific plan to resolve personal worries. Talk with someone who can help: a friend, a counselor, or a specialist.

The art or practice of concentration, no matter if studying biology or playing pool, is to focus on the task at hand and eliminate distraction. We all have the ability to concentrate -- sometimes. Think of the times when you were "lost" in something you enjoy. But at other times your mind wanders from one thing to another. Your worries distract you. Outside distractions take you away before you know it. The material is boring, difficult, and/or not interesting to you. These tips may help:

"Here I Study"

* Get a dedicated space, chair, table, lighting and environment.
* If you like music in the background, OK, but don't let it be a distraction.
* Stick to a routine, efficient study schedule.
* Accommodate your day/nighttime energy levels.
* Before you begin studying, take a few minutes to summarize a few objectives, gather what you will need, and think of a general strategy of accomplishment.
* Incentives and Rewards: Create an incentive or reward for successfully completing a task, such as calling a friend, a food treat, a walk, etc.
* Change topics: Changing the subject you study every one to two hours for variety.
* Vary your study activities: Alternate reading with more active learning exercises.
* Ask yourself how you could increase your activity level while studying? Perhaps a group will be best? Creating study questions?
* Take regular, scheduled breaks that fit you.

Be Here Now

This deceptively simple strategy is probably the most effective. When you notice your thoughts wandering astray, say to yourself, "Be here now," and gently bring your attention back to where you want it.

Worry or Think Time

Research has proven that people who use a worry time find themselves worrying 35 percent less of the time within four weeks. Set aside a specific time each day to think about the things that keep entering your mind and interfering with your concentration. When you become aware of a distracting thought, remind yourself that you have a special time to think about them.

Tallying Your Mental Wanderings

Have a 3 x 5-inch card handy. Draw two lines dividing the card into three sections. Label them "morning," "afternoon," and "evening." Each time your mind wanders make a tally in the appropriate section. Keep a card for each day. As your skills build, you'll see the number of tallies decrease.

Maximize Your Energy Level

When is your energy level at its highest? When are your low energy times? Study your most difficult courses at your high-energy times.

Visualize

As an exercise before you begin studying, think of those times when concentration is not a problem for you--no matter what situation. Now try to feel or image yourself in that situation. Recapture that experience immediately before your studies by placing yourself in that moment.

Answer 4

Talk 2 him calmly and make him understand the importance of studies

Answer 5

Nothing will make him think about his career except him being ready, and grown up enough to think about it - it takes time for most men to mature and bring their future into focus, at younger ages most men are thinking about their penis, friends, cars, food, sports, and sometimes school. Have patience, most men come around and are able to do well = they just need time to get to know themselves and to find their place - just my two cents.

Answer 6

Why should you try it they are also very strict do not think that the girls are only strict.

Answer 7

If u have done a serious mistake than u can't. because u all girls should not think that a boy will always be a propet to u.

Answer 8

just dont talk with him for a few days and act as if ur ignoring him and just to tease keep a condition that until he gets good marks u wont talk with him and marry him k

Answer 9

Be with him when you study so he can study too. Let him ask the questions and you answer and then you do likewise.

Answer 10

if both of you are in the same class u guyz can arrange combine studies ....... explain him the importance of career in n e one's life.if he loves u he will understand.good luck:)