Okay my hubby and I have been married for like 3 years. I have been pregnant b4 I was with him like 5 years ago. I think there is something wrong with him. How do I handle with him maybe the cause of our infetility? I do not want to adopt.
2006-11-24 19:27:12 · 9 answers · asked by jessica h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby and I want to have kids. I have been going to the doc. We have gotten me straighted out. I just do not know if I can stay with him if we can not have children. I have always wanted to be a mother and if he cannot give that to me I do not know what to do.
2006-11-24 19:46:50 · update #1
I do not need a child in my life to control. I did not have a good childhood at all. I am a good christian woman that is feeling really down.
2006-11-24 20:02:03 · update #2
Please do not be rude.
2006-11-24 20:18:40 · update #3
First fix it in your head that a fertility problem is a joint problem. Don't think of it in terms of something wrong with one of you. Tell him that you are concerned that you have failed to conceive after 3 years and you think it may be time the two of you went to seek medical advice. Don't assume that the problem lies with you husband alone. The likelyhood is that the doctor will suggest you do temperature charts and possibly by an ovulation test. In your husband's case they will probably start by testing his sperm count which may be low.
I know from personal experience how frustrating and upsetting it is to be in this situation but whatever the provocation never ever blame your husband. Even if it happens that the medical problem rests with him it is not his fault.
Eventually we used Artificial insemination by donor and now how 2 beautiful daughters. At the time we were trying for a baby it was distressing that we had this problem. Now our girls are 19 and 16 and in 23 years of marriage I have never once needed to worry about contraception, I actually see it as a blessing. Every cloud has a silver lining they say.
2006-11-24 19:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married your hubby for life, hopefully because you love him. Children brought into the union is a blessing, not a definate. There may be something wrong with him, have an open talk with him, and get him checked out. Threw personal experience though, when I stressed trying to get pregnant, it didn't happen, my hubby was just fine, it was me. Relax, everything in life happens for a reason. I now have 2 beautiful children.
2006-11-25 04:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by twinkies2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to your doctor is the first step. FInd out if there is anything wrong. With either of you. Second, remember stress is a big factor in not getting pregnant. Thirdly, talk to someone about your feelings, namely him. Maybe he thinks you are the problem and he may want to leave you because you aren't giving him any kids. How would that make you feel? Trust me, kids are great and I love mine dearly, but having them, or working on having them puts a strain on a marriage. But you married this man, not the thought of having kids. Think about that . Then ask for help in solving this childlessness issue. Trust me, there are doctors out there who can help.
2006-11-25 04:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Amy R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question...does he WANT kids?
If so then he should be more than willing to go to the doctor with you, and you do the same for him.
It can be a touchy subject. Just as a woman feels less of a woman if she can not conceive, a man feels the same.
Here's a website that gives you some figures as reasons:
http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/infertility/inf_causes.htm
Not to freak you out but there is such a thing as secondary infertility.... http://www.secondaryinfertility.com/
2006-11-25 03:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by nonethanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem with adopting? Maybe God has a better plan for you. Don't cheat yourself by limitng your options to be a parent. have you been using contraceptive with him before, and now want to conceive? If this is the case sometimes it may take as long as 2 years before any type of conception occurs.
2006-11-25 03:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to being married than having children. Consider not having childern or divorce him.
Another question for you to consider:
If your husband got in an accident that left him handicapped, would you leave him?
2006-11-25 03:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Quinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your doctor to do a sperm count!! If its OK try try again! Or a sperm bank.
2006-11-25 03:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
till death do you part was the vow you made, now your thinking of divorcing him, what wrong with this picture
2006-11-25 03:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your MD. for solutions
2006-11-25 03:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by esteryaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋