Is this normal?

Question

I went away to college. When I came home from college I felt like I had no life. I also did not have any contact with people that I grew up with. Is this normal.
I was very quiet the last year in high school so I didnt know where to start when I graduated college. What would you have done

Plus I stopped talking to everyone the last year of highschool, so I didnt have any old numbers to call. I was so quiet so I didnt have any old contacts.

Answer 1

Sounds about right. Same thing with me. Most of my friends had left town and I didn't have anyone to hang out with and talk with. I was supposed to get a job and start life and I didn't have the slightest idea how to do that. Go rent "The Graduate" with Dustin Hoffman. That's exactly how it was with me, except I wasn't an awesome student or a track star and I didn't attract anyone who looked like Katharine Ross. I think the first week after I came home after graduation, I sat at home in the dark and just watched TV. My Mom was on my case about getting a job all the time. It totally sucked.

Eventually, I gathered friends, made a career (after many starts and stops), found a mate, and began to live life. Here I am 15 years later and I'm still trying to put it all together. That's how it is supposed to be. I was under the mistaken impression that college was supposed to be really awesome and then you came home and got a job that required a college degree and then you made a good living and and moved out a few months later. Nope. College sucked. It was a long time before I finally felt like I was making a good living (actually, only in the last few months). It was several years before I had a real job. And I was at home for several years. As for friends, it was years before I felt like I had a satisfying social life and it never approximated what I had while I was in school.

The reason is that school is crazy situation where you see lots of people your own age all the time. You are put in a crazy boot camp like situation where you share the same exact experiences with so many people at the same time. Of course, you bond. Work isn't like that. You take a job. You aren't with as many people. The people you are with are older or younger than you and have their own things going on. Those things aren't like your things at all. And you enter the job at a different time than everyone else. And, after work, the last thing people want to do is hang out with their co-workers (usually). They want to go home and vedge.

So, yes, you are as normal as you are supposed to be. You are on the first step to a normal life. It's going to be hard and some of it will stink. You will have stops and starts. Just keep plugging along.

Answer 2

yes it is very normal. Peoples lives parallel for a while and when you move away to go to college your experiences are no longer shared. What I would have done would be what I did. I didn't force issues allow things to evolve. Some old friends formed new relationships with me based on where we were now not in the past. the others that didn't I put on hold for time being. I do send ecards to all from time to time just to let them know I am still around and thinking of them but I don't try to force the issue. Everyday is new with new people and experiences don't get so tied in the past that you miss out on opportunities today. Hope this helps
Happy Holidays

Answer 3

Life is not high school or college Get a job and then connect with people you have interest in. Maybe all the people you knew in high school are secretly thinking Wow she went to college and now she thinks she is too good for us. Say Hi to a few and see if the feeling is strong or goes away. But most of all Live and be yourself

Answer 4

yes, totally normal! I remember the void well, parents, friends, and others who once seemed so close have continued on with life - they all have jobs *maybe* and they all have things they do without you now, and it's hard getting back into their lives, at least it was for me - I just left my home town, and continued life with my new friends, and began my own life - your parents would probably kill me if they read this, but honestly, that was the best thing I've ever done. Real sense of accomplishment - just make sure you finish college first!

cheers.

Answer 5

yes thats normal its possible that the ties you had to friends in high school were not very tight and you just grew apart.

i would take advantage of the eituation, figure out what you want to do with your life and start over new and fresh and if a friend from high school contacts youdon't snub them give them a chance

Answer 6

yeah it's normal. you changed and you life changed.When I got out of the Navy all my Friends were doing the same thing and I have new ideas on life so I think it normal. I felt I had no life.you'll make new Friends through work and school and get a new life.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Try to send texts to ur friends, asking them for a gathering? (u can always start the ball rolling ya.) Join some activity & know new people also... Mayb of ur hectic studies that's y u have left out all ur past friends. .. Nvetheless, if they's ur friend, they will understand.. Cheers!

Answer 9

Yes...it's normal.
Even when you get a new job or different situations in life.

Make a couple phone calls to 'good' old friends.

Time doesn't make a difference.
They'd love to hear from you.
Maybe you can hook up and do dinner.

Answer 10

yeah, i know a lot of people who went through that. they go from learning all this stuff and being so social, to going home, having to find a stupid low paying job, and having like 2 friends besides their family.

look in the alternative weekly newspapers or magazines in your area and find some social events or clubs to join.