What is perfect marriage?

Question

People say that "perfect marriage" is when one partner "is in love" and other "allowes to be loved". What do you think about this theory, is that true?

don't you think you are being to idealistic while saying that they both love each other and "work on being happy"? are any of you married? I may not agree with this saying but look inside your relationship, there is always "one" who loves "more" than other. I haven't seen couple or family where feelings for each other are "even".

Answer 1

yes one has to love more in order to keep it even like yin and yang and its up to the other one to accept that and run with it

Answer 2

Love is not really the issue. Any two people that are committed to keeping their "marriage vows" will love each other. Love grows when nourished. Have you ever done service for someone, out of the goodness of your heart, not seeking a reward, and not feel an increased measure of love for that person. The same is true in marriage between two good people (this is important). Each spouse must give 100% to the relationship, any idea of 50/50 is nonsense. If she makes him sandwiches and drinks for the football game she can't be expecting the bathroom to be cleaned in return. If he does the dishes, he does not expect sex in return. But in giving 100%, all of these things will happen. It is all in your attitude and motive in action, that is all you can control. This will create an atmosphere for a "perfect marriage"

Answer 3

You could say you had the perfect piece of pumpkin pie ect. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. The important thing to do is find the perfect match. Then when you marry you work daily on making the perfect marriage. You have to have the will power not to have the last word in and never say I told you so. We as individuals all have our idiosyncrasies that each partner has to accept. Think before you speak and sleep on it over night. In most cases it's no big deal and sometimes you have forgotten what was so important yesterday. Your mate must be your best friend first. By communicating and having a sense of humor and respecting each others honesty and trust is when you begin to fall in love. That kind of love just keeps growing throughout the years. Most important is to allow each other to be who they are. My husband and I have been married since 1957. I still respect him for his honesty and kindness. He is still my best friend. I want to share a poem with you. I have shared this poem many times with other yahoo questions. I love this poem and I have framed it and it hangs on the wall next to our marriage license.

Take my hand and walk with me,
across the sands of time;
Hand in hand and heart to heart.
Husband . . . friend of mine.

We will share the solitude.
And walk in quiet peace.
My heart hears what your heart says,
it listens when yours speaks.

We’ve shared hearts and souls as one,
in perfect harmony;
The laughter and the tears we’ve known,
Are the sweetest melody.

For years have brought us to this place.
Across the sands of time;
We’ll walk together, till the end.
Husband . . . friend of mine.

Hope to have been helpful to all who read this. Sorry it's so long.

Answer 4

Perfect marriage = Fiction
No such thing as a perfect marriage. Both people in the relationship have to work together to make it work and Love is the key factor along with trust, honesty and forgiveness. However even with all these things the marriage is not perfect, no marriage is perfect.

Answer 5

I have a excellent marriage.My husband and I get along better than any other married couple we have ever met.My Mom and some other people in my family joke that we have the perfect marriage.She Say's we should be a attraction at Disney land because that is the happiest place on earth and we are the happiest couple on earth.But truly there is no such thing and if you try to make yours perfect you will drive your spouse and yourself crazy.Perfection means different things to different people.So you really couldn't categorize any marriage has perfect.A marriage that may seem perfect to one person could seem like hell on earth to another.It's all in your perception of perfect.

Answer 6

I do not believe any marriage is perfect. But if both parties treat each other with love, honesty and respect then there should be few problems along the way, and if a problem arises its fun to make up.

Answer 7

Weird theory. I think the perfect marriage is a marriage in which there is compatibility, communication, dedication, determination, and the desire to work things out, and a lot of good times between the hard times.

Answer 8

Perfect only exists in t.v and movie land.
a marriage can be Strong and happy but it still is a lot of hard work to make it that way. It just does not happen. It is impossible to live with some one day in and day out and not run into a few glitches along the way.If my marriage were "perfect" my husband would not fart in bed and I would not have PMS. unfortunately for us we do not live on t.v. LOL

Answer 9

Sounds pretty one-way to me.

If you ask me, the perfect marriage is when each person thinks they're getting the better end of the deal. In other words, there's a true synergy - what one person gives up no big loss yet it is exactly what the other wants. Everyone wins. Yay!

Answer 10

My lady and were high school sweethearts and have been together for 45 years. My heart still skips a beat when she walks into the room. I can't wait until tomorrow because I know I'm gonna love her more then than I do today. That's a perfect marriage.

Answer 11

im not sure if theres such a thing as a perfect marriage but if there is one i would definitely say that love should be mutual and pretty even so that somewhere along the line, one partner doesnt feel like he/she is giving too much or receiving too little.