I'm in love with my b.f who's a girl & I am 2 a few times I nearly ended up kissing her and she even caught me once trying I don't know how to control my feelings for her plz help
2006-11-24 17:50:39 · 12 answers · asked by blue-bird 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First off, She meant (Best friend not boy friend!)
Only act on it if you're willing to lose her as a friend. Cause she might not reciprocate.
You sound young, it's tough on young people to determine their sexuality. Don't assume that you're gay just because you have some feeling of being turned on ... Do all women turn you on? Or is it just her? If it's just her chances are you're not gay.
Besides all women have homosexual tendencies. acting on them with someone you care about could be disasterous if they don't reciprocate.
Be careful.
2006-11-24 17:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if she's not you should respect that and learn to accept it, or else you might end up losing the friendship. even if she isn't gay you should tell her you are, so she doesn't find out and get mad at you for not telling her. depending on how she reacts to that and how understanding of a person she is you might want to tell her your feelings for her and maybe you two can work something out so you can either control yourself or maybe she feels the same. if she doesn't feel the same and you tell her it's important to tell her you want to still be friends and that you back off so she doesn't feel weirded out around you. understand if she doesn't want to do some of the same stuff you used to, like if she feels weird changing in front of you ect, it would be just like doing those things with a guy that liked her and she didn't like. if she's a true friend she'll still be there for you and understand that you can't help feeling how you feel. I'd be flattered.
2006-11-25 01:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is heavy. You have to respect her space. Tell her you think you might be gay and try to Gage her reaction. Leave her alone with the kissing and stuff until you can know if she is gay too or not because I think she is not and I hope your friendship survives
2006-11-25 01:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is tricky for you. if you put your feelings out there you might loose her as a friend or she could accept your feelings. but then what will happen to your freind ship if you guys go through a break up. either way it goes your friendship is at stake. but you also have to be true to yourself. first just talk about the topic, you know in a general conversation to see how she feels about same sex relationships and go from there.
2006-11-25 01:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my understanding, I didn't think that true gay people have an attraction for the opposite sex. Don't buy into the hype of what others say that you are. You be your own person. I will be praying for you. God loves you and so do I. May God Bless
2006-11-25 01:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to move on by meeting other gay people, if your friend caught you then...well if you told her how you felt that could be a start.
2006-11-25 01:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Heat seeking missile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm confused.. your boyfriend is a girl?? are you saying you are a woman who is attacted to another woman? if so, i suggest you ring one of those gay helplines to talk through your feelings if you are confused and upset..
2006-11-25 01:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Frankie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is not gay you should keep her at a distance or you will destroy your friendship.
2006-11-25 01:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless she is the same...you can be up for harassment!
2006-11-25 01:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok...how can your boyfriend be a girl?..
2006-11-25 01:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋