I am a virgin, and my fiance knows I am. But I mean, Im curious if this would be a major turn off to him. What do you think?
(not trying to get too perdsonal, just wondering)
would you be turned off?
2006-11-24 17:48:37 · 41 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey my sis uses my screen name so any questions before this month, most likely aren't mine.
2006-11-25 09:46:03 · update #1
Its actually a Big Turn ON.
2006-11-24 17:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What concerns me is that he is supposed to be your fiance yet you do not know the answer to this question. Do you two not communicate? He knows you are a virgin and no doubt you have said you want to wait until your wedding night ( cant see why but i respect your decision) and surely he has communicated to you how he feels about the whole thing?
If not, i suggest you start talking before you get married! A wedding day is an emotional long tiring day - however simply you get married and if it is the usual 'big do' then expecting sex to be some amazing revelation at the end of it is a bit naive in my opinion.
2006-11-25 00:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity to a virgin. Awkward and slow, but very innocent and meant a lot to both of us. Would'nt change a thing, but I sometimes wish I had been with someone who knew what the hell they were doing. I think it depends why you're till a virgin. Do you have sexual desire, or does religious repression play a part? Early sex is rarely mind blowing, and will get better with experience and technique, but usually with different partners. I hope it all works out for you! My parents were first partners and now married 50 years. Kinda rare these days!
2006-11-25 01:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Big Al 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to an adult man, I cannot see why it is either a plus or minus. There is no prize for opening a package first, nor a prize for playing with a toy..big deal. Virginity is highly overrated, but it is not a bad thing either..it is what it is..a condition, nothing more, nothing less. Any man who insists on a virgin better be one himself (I can just see that wedding night mess of who does what when where how), and any man who wants a virgin has no sense of self esteem or confidence. Again, big deal.
2006-11-24 18:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm a girl, but i do have some useful information. I think your fiance would tell you that this is a major turn ON not off.
2006-11-24 19:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good at first... but normally... virgins suck in bed. They are scared, timid, etc. If your boyfriend sucks in bed too... then you will have a big problem. You are hoping he will teach you everything. And if he can't/won't, will/can you take responsibilty for your own pleasure? If you are both mature enough, and can communicate with each other about ANYTHING (which i'm assuming u can't since you are asking this on yahoo) then you will overcome the initial awkwardness. But if you lack communication, or are unable to develope it, you are doomed. But hey... good luck.
2006-11-24 18:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! This isn't a turn off, your fiance knows exactly what you're and that doesn't bother him (I don't think?). You just keep on saving your virginity for the man you marry and all will be fine! Proud of you, there are allot of people who wish they could be like you. Hang in there, plenty of time for sex as it won't kill him not to go there and it has certainly made a woman out of you. Thanks for letting me offer you my opinion.
2006-11-24 18:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why you are a virgin, is it because you wanted to remain a virgin? is it because you have hang ups about sex? is it for any physical reason? all of these are important. have other men tried to have sex with you and you have said no? if it is because of the latter then i would find it a massive turn on that you chose to lose your virginity to me above all others. a pointer: don't let him teach you about sex, he will probably teach you his way to satisfy him, discover what you want as well and then make sure that you get it.good luck.
2006-11-27 00:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by john w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said the key word fiance! he's still around! He cant wait till the wedding day/night! Never a turn off!
2006-11-24 17:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
everybody is a virgin sometime. If your guy is a good guy, and cares about you, it shouldnt make any difference. It is a good, and virtuous thing that you are a virgin. dont rush to change it.if you mean a lot to him, he wont rush you either. personaly, I have never been with a virgin, but It wouldnt have bothered me, i dont think. Some guys think its a really big deal to find one, others dont. depends on the guy, i guess.
2006-11-24 17:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men love a woman who is fresh untouched. Your husband to be can't wait to brake you in. I feel sorry fore you because the first time isn't fun at all.Your so nerve and it hurts.You get though the first night you'll love sex after that.
2006-11-24 18:54:50 · answer #11 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋