I am working in Saudi Arabia with Saudi boyfriend for nearly six years now, leaving together in same roof. He is working in a government agency. He helps me many things both financial and moral support. Lately, I felt I have no freedom at all as he used to ruin me if I want to do something. I have a very limited time specially getting involved outside with my friends and sometimes I felt very exhausted about the way he behaves in me. I want to get him out of my life but I loved him and I am 100% sure that he loves me too. What I must suppose to do? He is 24yr-old and I am 26. (sorrry 4my grammar) Please advise!
2006-11-24 17:47:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No one knows we are having an intimate relationship even his friend and mine. We both looks and act normal.
2006-11-26 18:01:25 · update #1
Since he is Saudi, there may be a cultural difference if you are not Saudi. If he helps you with financial and moral support, he is assuming the dominant role and in Saudi culture this can include him being controlling and not giving you any freedom. Since he is in a position to ruin you and you say that you want to get him out of your life, you need to make plans to move out of Saudi Arabia without him knowing and get out as quickly as possible.
2006-11-24 18:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is past time you went for some serious communication with each other. In any relationship, the two people will always find things the other does to be annoying or upsetting or what-have-you. If they allow those thigns to continue and do not put real effort into workgin together to smooth out the rough patches, then the relationship is doomed. Now despite best efforts, sometimes things just cannot be worked out but in most cases they can be.
So, make time to be together where you can openly discuss your relationship with him. Bring up the good things and the not-so-good and try to discuss rather than find fault. As well, encourgage him to do likewise. Remember it isn't about blame or doing a put-down; it is about discussion and problem solving.
Be patient, work at it and if it faisl, then feel free to part company knowing it isn't meant to be. but until you both have really tried, you nve rnkow if it might turn out to be the best love affair ever.
2006-11-28 03:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a very strong dose of reality here! You are in Saudi Arabia, and if the public of any kind found out about your BF, he could be beheaded! What do you expect him to act like? I do not think going out as a twosome is in order. He is in a very delicate situation...he must remain closeted and very descrete just to stay alive. If you want to stay with him, settle down, keep your mouth shut about everything, do not let anyone else know what is going on between you two. And don't think you are not in danger also....if a mob were to wipe you out, there is nothing that could be done to help you or save you. Wise up and straighten up. This is NOT a game you are playing, and there are NO 'do-overs' in life. You are acting and talking like you think you are living in a gothic novel..you are NOT...you are living in very real danger. Know it and act accordingly.
2006-11-24 17:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you wanna leave...
If that's the case, just do it. Don't stay because you're afraid to be alone for the rest of your life or because you think you'll hurt his feelings.
If love truly resides in your home, then the best remedy would be to put aside ALL of your bull5hit and confront him about his possessiveness. Tell him you love him but that he's tearing you're relationship apart.
Be dirtect... If he loves you, he'll only ****** for a little while... he'll get over it eventually.
2006-11-24 17:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by DelectibleD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him... let him know he's being to controling and the like......
let him know you love him but you need some room to do what you whant and spend time with your friends.
2006-11-24 17:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by CrazyCat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy in your relationship it's time to move on.he may be feeling the same way and then it's not fair to either of you
2006-11-25 01:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ron N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with him and tell him what is bothering you...the only way you can fix anything is to talk about it..i hope everything turns out ok...:)
2006-11-24 17:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him behind...it's not love, it's a bad habit.
2006-11-24 17:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow... maybe a break...?
2006-11-24 17:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋