thank for your answers, I have tried everything, but my wife wants to act like nothing has happened. She tries to show me that she cares, but it all seems so superfical. That depth we once shared is gone, Talking would make all the difference in the world, but she shuts me out every time. I know I should probably move on, because I need to hear and be shown those 3 little words, I love you.
2006-11-24 17:20:19 · 9 answers · asked by Rodney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if something has happened then maybe she doesn't realize it. To her every things OK. Something may have happened to her as a kid and she's afraid to show you how she really feels. People do that. Clam up because they don't want to be hurt. She's trying to show you but she's probably suppressing her past.She just needs to be shown how much you love her and talk to her a little bit at a time. Don't put pressure on her let her see she can trust you and your love. If you really love her then don't just give up on her. Maybe this is her testing you to see how much she can do until you give up on her. But talk to her even if she starts to shut you out tell her how you feel and that you two have to work this out with or without counseling or your not sure of what the future will hold for you both.Just don't say it with a mean sounding tone or like a threat. Say it with concern. And that as much as you don't want to talk divorce that's where this will end up going if she can't start talking to you and letting you hear her say she loves you and she can let you in.
2006-11-24 17:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way. He refuses to communicate or go to counseling, which leaves me to cry and suffer alone.
Please don't put yourself through this. Maybe you could do a trial separation for awhile and see if she'll address the issues with you once she has some time to feel what it's like without you.
Sometimes honey, no answer IS an answer. I am so sorry.
2006-11-25 02:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up the counseling the night before if nothing else is pressing give her one choice it's either counseling or the high way see what she says. And then act accordingly. If there r kids at home the problem gets sticky but still would u rather be miserable for the rest of ur life and what kind of productive parent could u be to ur kids.
2006-11-25 01:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's still trying to hurt you, and it sounds like she's succeeding. As a last-ditch effort, if you really want to salvage this marriage, try buying a copy of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Ask her to read it. If she refuses, she's just interested in punishing you rather than saving the marriage. After that, I'd say its time to move on, and I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-11-25 01:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's obvious that you've already made your decision or you wouldn't have posted a second time. If you want to end it you don't need anyone else's permission. Unfortunately sometimes people grow apart and no longer make one another happy. It's unfair to both of you to live in a loveless marriage. Remember she deserves to love and be loved just as much as you do. Good luck, whatever you decide.
2006-11-25 01:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Achilles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if she wont talk or go to counseling you need to move on because everyone need to feel love and she wont talk to you so that is letting you know she don't want to work it out. so try one more time and if it don't work just file for a divorce. good luck
2006-11-25 01:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
move a;ong with your life beause she is the one at fault
2006-11-25 02:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on dude
2006-11-25 01:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Third party?... if so, move-on........... better yet, RUN
2006-11-25 01:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋