Cut her loose?

Question

I have this so called friend that I've known for a long time.
She's a good person and everything but she was not there for me when I was going through a very difficult time. She disappeared and didn't contact me until more than a year later.
In the past, she was a supportive friend but sometimes was rude to me and acted like she didn't want to be around me.
Now she's super nice, calls all the time and wants to do things together (basically acting like we are best friends). She is depressed, has low self esteem and her best friend moved away. I've helped her a lot since she contacted me. I want to cut her loose but I don't have lots of close friends either. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

She's not reliable. You don't need to tell her not to be your friend and not to keep in contact. Fair weatherd friends don't stay around very long. They come round when they need help then they go away when all things are fine. As long as you don't except her to be there when you need her you'll not be disappointed.

I have friends like that too. I just learn not to depend on them. If they want to keep in contact they'll call and I just talk to them. When I have problems I deal with it myself.

Answer 2

hmm... cut her loose. Any friend who won't stick with you through the tough times, really isn't a friend at all. Just cut her loose and move on. Try joining more activities such as a dancing class or whatever you're into that will help you in meeting more people. goodluck!!! :)

Answer 3

first i would find out why she was not there when you needed her to be. if the reason is not good enough then cut her loose. it sounds like now that her best friend is gone she is looking for a replacement. ask yourself, if you stick around will she be there for you if you ever need her again? will she push me aside when she find another friend? i would rather be friendless than to have a fake friendship that i dont want to be in.

Answer 4

you need to decide whether or not your friendship still means anything to you. i think the true meaning of a friendship involves getting past things and forgiving. doesnt mean you have to forget, but you need to evaluate whether you are a true friend or if you are going to let revenge or your emotions get in the way. sounds like maybe shes been going through something and maybe she pulled away first and then realized that she needed you. she may of been uncomfortable and didnt know what to say or do to help you when you needed it.

Answer 5

cut her loose