My wife has not said I love you in over a year. After breaking my heart, hers was broken over a internet love affair. She says she is sorry and is trying to make our marriage work, but we don't talk & she will not say I love you to me. It also not in her eyes the way it use to be. With out those 3 little words, i don't think we will make it. I still need to know why the was willing to throw a good thirty year marriage away for somebody on the net. If her heart was broken as bad as mine than she is probably still hurting like me.What should I do?
2006-11-24 16:56:17 · 12 answers · asked by Rodney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did she have an internet love affair since you two were married ?? If the answer is yes, well then she should be bending over backwards for your forgiveness, not acting like it is all your fault. She may say she is sorry but does she show it ? I think telling your husband or wife that you love them is very important to the well being of any marriage. If she can't say " I love you " and mean it well then to me you have a serious problem to sort out. I can't tell you why people do the things they do, or how they can be so hurtful but l can tell you that no-one would blame you for your feelings towards your wife. In all honesty if she worried at all about your feelings she would not have hurt you so badly. Try telling her exactly how you feel and if all that fails l would suggest you leave and get yourself a life back. Everyone deserves a happy life. Go and find yours. Good luck.
2006-11-24 17:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the words I LOVE YOU! is the rock foundation in a marriage.it is like fuel in a car. without the evidence of love you would not have the ablilty to get close.she really needs to go with you to see a marriage counselor . have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her that if she wants this marriage to work that you both need cooperation. you must be a very good man to forgive the way you did. she did far more damage to you when she was unfaithful.if she wants this marriage to work she is going to have to put more effort into this marriage. if she doesnt want to change then i would tell her that i am going to seek a divorce. what does she think is important in life? trying to make a go of this marriage or continue pushing you away with indifference. ther has to be a change or you and she will not grow in love together.try and romance her again and give her flowers.if she shows you that she is not willing then you have your answer.
2006-11-24 17:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel they are important however showing how much you love someone is more important. If she is willing I would suggest going to counseling. You both have to deal w/what happened and come to terms as to why it happened. What you should do? That is a decision you have to make. No one else can tell you and shouldn't. You both need to sit down and talk about what happened and listen when the other is talking (truly listen) and that can help you find out what happened. Just remember it takes two to tango and problems in marriages are usually not one sided. The best of luck w/whatever happens
2006-11-24 17:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by brneyedgirl_4_u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should sit down with her and tell her what you are telling us. tell her you guys should get some help and save the marriage. tell her what in your heart and tell her that communication is important to you. so she should learn to communication with you. unless she want the marriage to be over. i know it's hurt but if she doesnt want to make it work and it's sound like she doesnt then you should move on. i know thirty year is alot. but some people move on and some grow old together. so i would say talk to her seriously and tell her what you told us. if she doesnt want to listen then it's her lost. move on and there is a right woman out there for you. good luck
2006-11-24 17:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with her,seriously about the subject.communication is the key,to solve problems in marriage's matters.Good luck.
2006-11-24 16:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's not in her eyes or she doesn't show it, it doesn't matter if she says it or not, you'd still know it wasn't there. Maybe you two should try counseling, that might help. If nothing else it will help you know which direction you should take, Good Luck
2006-11-24 17:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that actions speak louder than words. she could be saying i love you every ten minutes, but if shes cheating, not around, not into the relationship, and not supportive she doesnt love you. or she may love you, but not be "in love" anymore. there is a difference
2006-11-24 17:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by kd baby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are critical, vital, important and necessary.
You need guidance to get through this rough patch
2006-11-24 16:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Force her to say it like my husband does, even though I don't feel it back towards him :-)
2006-11-24 17:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact a good divorce atourney hons and have judge judy talk too her hons-
2006-11-24 17:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋