I am 21 and he is 25 we have been together 2 years. We have been living together for almost 1 year now. When I ask him about marriage he says I'm not interested in getting married for years. Which is ok with me because I don't mind waiting at least a year or two, but I don't know if it's me he wants to marry in a few years. He always beats around the bush and jokes about it when I bring up the conversation. So then I told him.."I want to get married and you don't so you are wasting my time, I think we should break up" And I ask him do you think we should break up or stay together and he says " I think we should stay together" But everyone is telling me that by 2 years of being together he would know if he wants to marry me or not. I don't want to waste my young years on him if we are not going to get married. Why doesn't he tell me straight out yes or no? By 2 years does a guy know for sure?
2006-11-24 16:49:13 · 13 answers · asked by ohyeah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go one with your life. i bet there's someone better out there for you.
2006-11-24 16:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh I hate to say it but the reason he doesn't give you a yes or no...because the answer is NO. But he is too much of a punk to tell you. So he says maybe to drag on the relationship without the full commitment. In a guys mind why have marriage when your living together, having sex and everything is "working". He doesn't want to get married PERIOD.
I would stop wasting my time and break up. Be glad you only wasted 2 years I have had girlfriends that wasted 5 w/the same situation.
2006-11-25 00:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By two years together and living together for boot, Yes ANYONE should know if they want to marry the other.
I had this happen to me and you know what I waited. Finally after be telling that person I was leaving, he asked the marriage question but a year later, ALOT of planning and money later, three months before the wedding he called it off saying he wasn't ready and wanted to wait longer. I stuck around for alittle longer, just to find a place of my own and ironically the same day we were to be married I moved out, it just happened that way. He pursued me for alittle bit, saying he still loved me and wanted to get married EVENTUALLY and I dated him again for almost a year then I met someone great and now I'm happily married to the most wonderful man and have a wonderful smart baby boy. Bottom line is if they don't know by then, who to say they will ever know.
I wasted five years with that one jerk. I met him when I was 20 and finally cut myself free at 25.
Move on there could be that someone great out there for you to but your too busy with this jerk.
Good luck
2006-11-25 00:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years and even I dont want to get married!!! sure, he is the guy i plan on being with for the rest of my life ( and he feels the same) but why rush into something? marriage is suppose to be FOREVER, and thats what a lot of people forget. today people get married and divorced so many times... and like its no big deal. it is. people today are ruining what marriage is suppose to be and i just dont understand that. my boyfriend and i neither one believe in divorce, so we want to be 1000000% sure before we get married. if this is who you want to be with forever, is waiting a few more years, until he is completely comfortable with the idea of being a married man ( and you a married woman) to much to ask? whats the rush? slow down and enjoy life. live one day at a time! good luck. and remember, everything comes at the time its suppose to, not before and not after... right on time!
2006-11-25 00:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by jcmodelchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't tell you because he doesn't know yet. He, and you, are both still very young - even though you don't feel young.
If you stay, maybe he will marry you. Maybe he won't. In the meantime, you should be having a great time with friends and everyone.
Leave as friends. If its something you both want later, then it will happen. Don't ever force it or give an ultimatum.
2006-11-25 00:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should know by now. but u should not have moved in with him...why does he need to buy the cow when he's getting the milk free? sounds like he has feelings but just not marriage minded. i would move out...start living my life and see what happens. just tell him, "ya know...i love you and want to be married, but it seems like we're on 2 different pages and it's driving me bananas!" move out...stay with relatives if u can't afford your own and see how he responds. if he's like cool, be gone...and he doesn't look back then u know he was just having a relationship that was a convenience. test the waters...and don't be afraid of loosing him. if it was meant for you all to be together..nothing will stop it from coming to pass.
2006-11-25 01:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy starts joking or changing the subject regarding getting married, you are wasting your time! Tell him that you want a marriage and you don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't so you are leaving. THEN DO IT!! You are wasting your time with him.
2006-11-25 09:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand him completely. Your both young and who wants to be tied down so early in life. Let him enjoy his youth. Dont put that sort of pressure on him. You are too naive to know if your ready for marriage. Find someone who shares your interests and marry them otherwise its a recipe for disaster if you trap your man into marriage when hes not ready
2006-11-25 06:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kylie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you WAITING...???
Why are you asking him IF ya'll should break up?
Stop being sooooo passive; this is YOUR life, not his.
Be proactive... if you think he's "the One" for you, ask him to marry you.
If he says 'yes'... all's good.
If he says 'no'... all's good, too, just not w/ him.
If he doesn't answer (or jokes about it, or beats around the bush, or ignores it or whatever), see last answer, above.
Whatever you do, just STOP "waiting" around for your life to happen.
2006-11-25 01:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by TX-Griff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and talk to him. tell him what in your heart. if he not on the same page with you. then move on. because when you marry. that for life. but if he not ready and still want to be with you. then he could at least put a promise ring on you. until you guys get marry. but like i said you wont know until you guys talk but i mean seriously. dont argue. so if he love you he will aleast put a promise ring on your finger. good luck
2006-11-25 00:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you get when you agree to live with a guy. Why should he marry you when he is getting all he wants without it? The only thing the women's rights movement has done is made things easier for men. You women are so clueless it's not funny.
2006-11-25 00:52:06 · answer #11 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋