My kids suffer b/c thier fathers pay no child support or bother to call or keep them. I will do whatever I have to do to get them to pay no matter how sneaky, bad, or evil it may seem. What are some suggestions? I am a desperate mom .
2006-11-24 16:47:37 · 6 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You kids suffer cause you have hate and you resent your ex. Just let him be. My ex doesn't pay when he is supposed to and he has not called in almost 2 years. Move on and set a better example for your kids. Women like you give women like me a bad name. Its not all about the money-its about the kids.
2006-11-24 16:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop stressing that they don't call or spend time with their kids. These losers are going to be bad influences on the kids. The little ones are better off without them.
Are any of the fathers working? Do this first:
Go to your local courthouse and file a request in Family Court for Child Support. A judge will have both of you fill out a questionaire about how much you make and what kind of expenses you have (rent, utilities, food etc.)
The judge will then decide how much the guy can reasonably pay in child support, and ORDER him to pay up.
If you have reason to believe he will not pay support, you can ask the judge to order payment by way of something called "wage attachment." This means the support money will be taken out of his paycheck BEFORE he even gets it, and the money will be sent to you.
If the child's father doesn't work, or has a job that's "under the table"...meaning he gets paid in cash, and doesn't pay any taxes on it, get the court order first.
Then hire a private detective to get proof that he's working, and take that info to court to show that he's actively trying to avoid paying child support by hiding his income. Not only will he get into trouble, but the people he's working for will get into trouble too.
If the baby's father isn't working, even on the sly, there isn't much you can do now...but get that court order right away. Later on, he may think you have forgotten him and how much he owes, but the balance he owes to his kids will keep growing and growwing. Even after they turn 18, he will still have to pay you back all that money...but the only proof of how much he should be paying will be from that court order.
Good luck!
2006-11-25 01:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by devil_bunny_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you have multiple children by multiple fathers? And the dads aren't involved in your children's lives and don't pay support...gee, go figure. I'm sure you had just the most committed relationships with them before you got pregnant, right? I'm almost wondering if you didn't just let yourself get pregnant so that you could have a gravy train until the kids turn 18.
Regardless of how you managed to get pregnant, you've got these children, and it's your responsibility to care for them. Yes, it's the dads responsibility as well, but basically the ONLY way you can get support payments out of them is to take them to court. Some states will order employers to deduct support payments from paychecks, but some guys will even get around that by finding an employer to pay him in cash (so there's no record of employment.) You may be willing to do whatever to get the payments, but if you go too far, it may even be illegal, and then not only will you get nothing, but could possibly go to jail, and your children would then be in the foster system. Look into government agencies that help single mothers. And think about the next guy you hook up with, and try to use birth control with him, ok????
2006-11-25 01:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best route would be to report him to the local tax agents, since he may be deducting it and not sending it. You could cut off his visitation rights but think of the children. I suggest digging up something on him that is a violation of tax law and using it in court against. You could hire another lawyer who makes a deal for child support.
I heard of one story of a man who didn't pay for three years. Social Services forced him to pay $20,000 out of $30,000 owed. You could strike a deal. You may be able to charge him with criminal neglect or some other charge, but I think the threat of it through a lawyer and a willingness to make a deal on it might just be the route to get you what you want. The problem relates to the relationship you have with the children and how he plays into it. If he is a deadbeat dad who hasn't seen his kids for over two years, then he deserves to be sued and charged, period.
Don't do what a friend of mine did. She decided to sleep with him for child support. Another friend of mine told me that if she was complaining about the money because it wasn't enough, since she offered the deal to him, she can't complain about what she gets paid for sucking him off.
2006-11-25 00:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by shtupidshmuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i did??I dont work so i got tanif. You know Afdc,Its where u get a monthly check and guess what the father has to pay it back,,Cause once he gets a job there gonna take it out his check.He has to pay it back because it comes from the goverment..You dont have to pay it back.Its like a grant.If you have one kid you 234.00$ per kid..And when income tax come he wont get any you will.they will take his taxes to pay back the grant..Thats what i do..Call ur family services office and if u do work u can still sign up for child support there sitting and waiting for him to get a job and once he does hell he'll owe so much child support he wont get no checks.
2006-11-25 00:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by tankkaray 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take them to court.
they can take out the child support automatically from any paycheck he receives and it will go straight to your kids.
2006-11-25 01:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by eMteMind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋