My girlfriend of 1 year plus cheated me before. When we are together for the first few months, she was having a relationship with her brother in law for 3 years, even sex! Though it have past long ago, i still cannot get rid of that anger with her bro in law, as she said she was forced to. Please see this as a cry for help, as my emotion gonna die off soon....Cannot take this any longer....
2006-11-24 16:46:03 · 13 answers · asked by Roy . C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Part 2 - I work like 12 hrs every day, and i couldnt even know where she is. Privacy she said, but i have to report to her every 4 hrs or so using 3G! My ATM card kept by her, i cannot go out with my best friend (which is a lady). But what i can do, i really love her deeply, how can i know she do love me too? My ex girlfriend (broke up due to her parents,she's a part time model & she's loaded!) heard about my plight and pity me. I am just a moderate guy, nothing else with an empty pocket. But i just cant bear to leave my current girlfriend, as she said she cant be without me. Willing to give up her life to prove it. In which get me more confused...
2006-11-24 17:09:21 · update #1
Hey, guy. I'm really sorry you're hurting. I'm sorry you feel this way. There is nothing like the betrayal of someone you trusted, heart and soul. But in all honesty, it boils down to this--do you love her enough to forgive her? It seems the problem isn't with her, or her brother in law (the scum, ha!), it's with your own heart. Maybe you need some distance to be able to answer that question? Or let's make it simpler: would you want to be forgiven? If she's no longer cheating, has promised to be faithful, do you believe her? CAN you believe her? Stop torturing yourself (and maybe her with your doubts) and forgive her. Or you're going to ruin the relationship.
2006-11-24 16:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. OK, here's my opinion; people will say what they think you want to hear. It seems very unlikely that she was forced to have a sexual relationship with the brother-in-law. If you believed her, you would not be having these feelings. So what to do?
1) Evaluate the relationship. Is the sex really good? If not, you MUST leave her.
2) IF the sex is great, then (aside from the cheating) is the relationship acceptable to you? In other words, if there had been no cheating, would you truly want to stay with her? Or are you looking for a way out, and have latched onto this cheating issue?
3) If you find the relationship acceptable (aside from the cheating) would you want this woman to be the mother of your children? If not, dump her now.
So, once you have evaluated, and you still want to be with her, it is up to you to recognize that continuing to have sex with an old boyfriend at the beginning of a new relationship ISN'T REALLY CHEATING (well, on you, anyways). It the guy wasn't her brother-in-law, you'd be patting yourself on the back, thinking that you won her with your superb lovemaking skills.
But all this is contingent on the sex being really great.
2006-11-24 16:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF? Now you've got me confused. I can tell you are so tormented by your involvements with these women. As far as your gf cheating on you with her sister's husband-----she's a low life skank. You could never trust her. And I don't believe she was forced to do anything. The other women you talked about, I cannot tell which one is your gf or your lady friend, but what you said about having to report in every 4 hrs and that she has your atm card------that's not a relationship worth having. I think you should talk to a mental health counselor to help you sort all of this out. You seem so torn up over all the crappy shi* that these women have inflicted on you and rightfully so. Maybe you should cut all of them out of your life and just take care of yourself man.
Pray to the Lord for his guidance and comfort. Don't let these fuc*ed up women mess with your head any more.
2006-11-24 17:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot get rid of the anger, and cannot forgive her, you need to get out of the relationship. Period. You're not doing you or her any good being in this relationship that's filled with hate and anger. No one deserves to be in a relationship where forgiveness is withheld, if you can't forgive her, then you need to let her go.
Just fyi, if you can't forgive her, it's going to keep eating at you. I would talk to a counselor or someone for some ideas on how to get over this in your life. You need to get past this and move on. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-24 17:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should let her go. you deserve better. if she would cheat on you once and with her brother in law it doesnt say much for her honesty and loyalty to you or her family. as you said your emotions are going to die off soon- youll get over her good luck
2006-11-24 16:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by kd baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to seek council or end it! Save your sanity as there are women out there that will not cheat and that feeling you have will go away! Time heals all!
2006-11-24 16:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, all i can say is that she is the sl*uts of all sl*uts,bit*ch of all bi*tches and deserves to die, get hit by a car , strike by lightning and #@fuc8ker of all time.LEAVE THIS S8LUT and MOVE ON .What goes around comes around....she will get a taste of her own medicine when the time comes.
2006-11-24 17:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. get some whiskey and wine. and drink drink drink.
2. then listen to some 311..
3. repeat steps 1 & 2
2006-11-24 16:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
eww thats kinda nasty,i dont know what will happend to ur feelings
2006-11-24 16:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. She's not worth it, Period!
2006-11-24 16:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋