Okay i have kids from a past relationship. and i started to work at the police station while i was pregnant and this guy pretty much liked me since the start and was there for me through out my pregnancy and birth of my twins. he even told me to give them his last name, so now we have been dating since then and just last week he told me he wants to have a baby before he turns 30. i love him alot and we both live together and he loves my kids just as if they were his. but i still think its too early to get pregnant again, but i really love him alot and want to give him a child...its just that i am so confused. so help
2006-11-24 16:38:35 · 17 answers · asked by Mandy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do want to have more children and i love him alot we just moved into a new house and have a wedding date set for 08. and like one of you said he was there for me through the thick and took responsibilty for children that weren't his, and most of all he fell in love with me when i was pregnant. i guess i just had a bad experience with my last boyfriend, which is why i am confused,
2006-11-24 16:52:51 · update #1
and my twins are toddlers
2006-11-24 16:56:26 · update #2
the biological father left me when he found out i was pregnant.
but the more i think about it, i am going to have a baby for him.
2006-11-25 01:50:50 · update #3
I would go for it. He sounds like a wonderful man. Your children will be easier to rear of they are closer is ages. There won't be so many changes between births. I have two children, seven years apart. It was like having two "first" babies.
2006-11-24 16:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope you didn't give the kids his name.
How long have you been together?
Are you engaged? Planning a wedding?
Tell him how you feel that you want to be married the next time you get pregnant, you want to make sure you are in a lasting relationship. You don't have any more children to grow up without their proper father.
To know, to really know if you want to have children with someone you should at least be in a relationship, living together for two years and married. That gives time to get to know each other and know if you want to be together for the rest of your lives.
Explain those things to him and if he doesn't understand and still persists then you need to move on because that we will how your relationship will always be, him bullying you into things you aren't really to do without considering your feelings.
Good luck!
2006-11-25 00:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said that you think it's too early to get pregnant again. So that's just what you need to tell him.
Unless he's turning 30 within the next couple of months, I'm pretty sure you can tell him you're not quite ready yet and he'll understand.
Besides, people shouldn't put age limits on things as important as children. Although 30 is an understandable age, he can't expect you to have one just for him. It has to be a mutual thing.
2006-11-25 00:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get pregnant unless you have a wedding ring on your finger....period. If you have a wedding planned for '08, then wait until after the wedding to try to have a baby. Actually, I believe you shouldn't have sex until the wedding ring's on the finger (and that's the way I did it), but I realize most people don't agree with that anymore. A baby deserves to have 2 parents who are married to each other, period.
If you feel it's too soon after the birth of your twins to have another baby, then don't. If he's pressuring you to have a baby, then don't. If you're confused, you're not ready...period.
2006-11-25 01:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
30 or older isn't too old for a man to have children at all.
If you feel its too early - don't. You might also consider that getting married first would help all of you become a family. Once you have made it with the children you have - then, consider having more.
Having a baby is beautiful...when they're teens, eating you out of house and home - with hormones running crazy - then, you'll be glad you had them further apart.
2006-11-25 00:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you just had twins for goodness sakes.you need time to heal. let the other babies grow up a little first. if he really loves you he will not rush you. give your love time to grow and to know each other. let your little ones have a chance to be your babies and spend time with them.if he cant see that then maybe you need to take a step back and ponder the situation.dont rush into anything you might regret later.tell him that you would like the twins to get bigger first before you think of having anymore. twins are alot of work. have a heart to heart talk with him and explain that you need to wait awhile before you have anymore.
2006-11-25 00:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a great guy. its up to you. are you ready to take on the responsibility? how old are you? your children? how long have you been together? no one can tell you the correct answer. this is your decision. talk to him and let him know that your not sure . good luck. just remember he is still young theres still time. congrats on having a decent guy - theres not many in the world
2006-11-25 00:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're confused then you're not ready. Since you're asking this question you're not ready. If you think its too early then its too early. Yes u love him and im sure he loves u too so im sure if u tell him how u feel then he'll respect ur wishes. Communication is the key : )
2006-11-25 00:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Then save up and plan for a baby. That's the best way.
2006-11-25 00:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur kids have grown to be more than three, u can possibly become mother again but not otherwise. I am sure he will see the logic.
2006-11-25 00:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋