me and my bf broke you and i need your help!!!?

Question

me and my bf broke up a while ago and i was devestated. i basically turned to my friend that i use to crush and and started talking online and fishing for sweet things to make me feel better. i feel horrible because me and my bf got back together and i didnt tell him who i had talked to because i knew he would be furious. i feel so crumby for not being honest. i know that its important to us. do i tell him? its been months later. or do i keep it to myself? i dunno if he would even ever find out, but i still feel crumby. nothing sexual at all... just stupid mushy crap was said. i feel like such a bad person!

Answer 1

Don't bring it up. It would only serve to relieve your mind, but at his expense. Why hurt him when there's no way to change the past. Just go forward from here, treat him extra nice and be glad nothing happened which you would have felt much worse for. . . . You're not a bad person. Let yourself off the hook on this and leave it behind for both you and your boyfriend's happiness. Consider this time a brand new start and only look forward! It will get easier before long. And remember, you didn't do anything wrong. A little flirting's no big deal - he doesn't need to know about it and you won't do either of you or your relationship any good as long as you're feeling guilty and beating yourself up over it. Visualize yourself (figuratively) blowing it and your worry over it, out of yourself, into a big huge balloon and "watch" yourself - in your mind's eye - let it go and float far away. I know it sounds corny, but try it - it really actually helps - I promise. Good luck, Sweety - I know you and your boyfriend will be fine. ((hugs!))

Answer 2

He probably also talked to someone about the break up. Might have been a guy.

You were broken up - so anything you did in that time frame doesn't concern him.

Answer 3

Keep it to your self , no need to hurt him .