Hey guys, we have some real chances to reach people here who come for advice before they have abortions. But we don't always succeed. Sometimes we get them after the fact. The girl who just had the abortion today, while i might not agree with the act, she is hurting and she's scared and she's looking for just a little bit of compassion from us as women. To pose a question, would it be so awful if we just told her we were praying for her and gave her some support resources? I don;t advocate abortion, but i do have a heart for this young girl for some reason.
2006-11-24 16:30:24 · 15 answers · asked by 1973kimberly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am having my 4Th baby in June. Needless to say I DON'T agree with abortion. BUT I too have something in me that wants to mother her too. I will be praying for her and I hope she finds someone who know what she is going through and has words to share and hopefully comfort her. I think giving support resources is a great idea. I think too many times on here people just lash out and say VERY harsh things. Are we forgetting that real people ask these questions?? And are we SO much better than others to judge?? I had a baby at 17 too. But I had a man, and I say MAN, that took the responsibility and we made a family. I would never judge what another is going through. Thank you for reminding us that we are all on here for support even if we don't agree with the decisions of others.
2006-11-24 16:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first off..NOBODY JUDGE ME OR HER...EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES..SOME BIGGER THAN OTHERS..I feel for her...and Yes I will pray for her..lol I dont have a name to go with my prayer..but I will figure out something to get her reached lol...I made the same mistake when I was 16..I want to thank you..for not alienating her for her discision and for trying to hook her up with guidance..it has been 3 years since my abortion and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about what I did....A lot of praying..repenting...and many many abortion support groups is all that got me to the point where I forgave myself...I am not what you would call a "bible thumper" (no offense to anyone)..but Prayer is the number one thing that got me to forgive myself...See after my abort..I was no longer able to have kids..(the docs said)..I had periods but they were painful and irregular...I prayed all the time because I realized after the fact the reality of what I did...but God forgave me..the reason I say God forgave me...is because I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with a baby girl I am naming Mallory...The docs were very surprised that I was pregnant..they said I wouldnt be able to have anymore kids..but God decided I should...please send your friend my blessings...and to keep her head up....She can email me if she ever needs to talk, vent...or just have someone that was and sometimes does jump back into that emotional roller coaster...good luck to both of you.
2006-11-24 16:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree with you. I think when ppl ask a question about anything and then get ppl's person opinions (usually condeming or opposing opinions) then they did not answer the question...they are just promoting their views. Which is actually a violation of the TOS...
I did not read the ques your talking about but you can't change what ppl do...sin is in our nature. But to show love and compassion is also in our nature. So when someone is reaching out for that love and your only giving hatred...you are in fact sinning.
I am not 100% sure you asked a question but in this case here is my humble opinion. Show God's love through kindness no matter if you agree or disagree..Jesus reached out in kindess and love to sinners and in return they saw first hand God's love.
2006-11-24 16:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know there is a difference between being anti choice and anti people. You can still be good to people who don't agree with you. I hope as you are being nice to her that you tell her that she made the best decision she could at the time and not to feel guilty. I hope you will help her to look forward instead of back and not judge her action for whatever reason she may have "sinned" in your eyes.
It is good that you feel compassion for this girl...It's good to see that anti choice people really do have heart.
2006-11-24 16:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a refreshing thought. I dont agree with abortion either, but whats done is done, and maybe if people were more like you, it wouldnt seem so scary. Who knows what kind of situation she may have been in. Its not up to us to judge, and I think you are right. Maybe with some support, she may not have to go thru this kind of thing ever again. I will pray for her also.
2006-11-24 16:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cris Tee 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You have a heart huh? That baby had a heart and now it's in a trash can somewhere. Abortion is the ultimate act of selfishness and you always pay the cost to be the boss.
2006-11-25 01:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Weasel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the fact that she had an abortion but you can inform her in other ways to maybe help prevent her from doing it again. Its good to have support in her time of need so you would be doing the right thing to talk to her and support her (not her decision though).
2006-11-24 16:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by CMA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, the answers that poor girl received are disgusting. I was almost in tears reading them so i can only imagine how she must be feeling. We can not understand her situation by a few lines in a question but i totally agree that a few words of support and kindness from us will help her move forward.
2006-11-24 16:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by blahblahblah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are exactly right.
I have had this experience, and I have found that there are many many women in the pro-life movement who have had abortions, and probably would never have joined the pro-life movement if they had not experienced this tragedy themselves.
Most pro-life pregnancy-aid type organizations also provide support for women who have had abortions.
2006-11-24 16:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree...when someone on here is obviously already hurting the last thing he/she needs is a bunch of bible thumping "know it alls" to make them feel bad. Have some compassion and lighten up!
2006-11-24 16:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by Becky R 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋