I just don't understand why most people take the sanctity of marriage so lightly, rushing to bail-out when the "IDEAL" expectations are not being met....how about our morale and values?.... does it matter anymore????
Is that how it is now?.. ME ME ME... doesn't care about whose lives are being affected?...as long as we're happy... who cares?.........very sad.
...and we wonder why today's kids are so messed-up.... hmmm
2006-11-24 16:27:48 · 8 answers · asked by Morena 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to each their own.. not everyone has the same values on marriage. and bad marriages or many divorces does not cause kids to be messed up....so what is your real question here?
2006-11-24 16:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its wrong to bail when the going gets tough, however, to raise children in a household full of anger and resentment is not healthy either.
Many times, what is going on in the marriage is not apparent to the children or outsiders of the marriage, only to the couple.
Its sad that children are affected so much, but they are not to blame at all and their parents, even though they don't love each other, they do both love their children with all their hearts. Both have give this more thought than anyone can imagine. Divorce is so difficult, no one takes it lightly.
Today's kids are just as messed up as yesterday's kids. That's kids. Its part of growing up. Divorce is what people blame it on, however, hormones and lack of maturity are the true culprits.
2006-11-25 00:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree. People think they are in love one day, then get married the next, then after living together --both partners slowly find out what kind of person they are married to, and then decide that its not good enough. Divorce is handed out too easily. Peoples biggest problems are that they didnt take the time to get to know eachother. My husband and I married after one year of dating. We have been married for six, and I still get frustrated and surprised at the personhe can be. However, I said I do, so I am stuck with it, and wont be quiting anytime soon.
2006-11-25 00:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by nadia s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, everyone in the world now is pretty much all about instant gratification and self-fulfillment. I agree with you. I think marriage is a serious thing, not just something that you "feel like". Look past your feelings, people! nobody cares how you "feel" right now, they care what you do. and yeah, it is messing up the kids. kudos to you.
p.s. just a warning... form past experience, I'm predicting you're gonna get some really dumb and jerky answers to this question... the world sucks.
2006-11-25 00:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you 100 percent! This is coming from a 19 yr. veteran of Marriage. I say it like this, because there were probably bets against our odds.
2006-11-25 00:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yep between people of the depression era staying together entirely through too much and people of the boomer generation and their successors calling it quits totally too easily and swiftly...I for one entered into my marriage with every intention of making a lifelong commitment...we lasted nearly 8 years before she regretted having no variety in her dating experiences ( as far as I could tell I never asked she had dated at least 6-10 guys prior to me)
2006-11-25 00:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Amen!
America has alot to answer for for the way we have treated Home, Family and Children .....
these are issues that God does not take lightly!
2006-11-25 00:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Marsha 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Always,there are good marriages and bad marriages.
2006-11-25 00:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋