Hi, my friend and i are completely different but the closest friends ever. well, now i think that its time we go our seperate ways because i noticed shes being fake in alot of ways. and i dont like fake people. we went a whole month without talkin to each other and she said it was because she knew i was mad at her. if she knew i was mad she should have at least called to see how i was doing but truth is, i wasnt really mad but kinda doing my own thing and decided we need some time away from each other. she says she doesnt need to prove her friendship and that shes not gonna call me more than once to see if we're still friends.. i dunno something like that.. anyway, i will miss her but we are both gettin older and our lives change and i dont know if i should try to keep her as my friend or just move on. im tired of alot of crap shes been pulling lately. she even had her parents thinking i was a bad person even though she does things worse than i would do and sometimes hypocritical...
2006-11-24 16:17:00 · 6 answers · asked by Christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
should we move on? or just keep in touch once in awhile. i dont know if i could have a friend like that in my life, im trying to get my life straightened out and be more positive. she however likes to bring up the past alot and remind you that youre a nobody sometimes....
2006-11-24 16:18:53 · update #1
how do you seperate yourself from someone who is a bad vibe in your life but you will still miss them alot?
2006-11-24 16:19:47 · update #2
Friendships are hard, it's about remaining close despite diffrences. I believ our friendships are one of the most importnat relationships we will ever have, but your not tied to your best friend like you would be your spouce in marraige, although divorce rates are high, there are still people who stick it out through every good and bad time. If you need reassuance from your friend that she cares, then maybe you should spill the beans to her. Tell her how much you care about her, and your freinship, and that it would be a horrible thing to throw away. Explain that you always hated when people acted "fake" and thats the vibe you are getting from her, let her know you don't want to offend her but you noticed some changes (avoid saying stuff like "Your so fake now") Then tell her you want to stay friends but leave it up to her (since you feel she is the one fading away from you) If its not easy saying it to her face, write a letter, but DON'T have another freind tell her, and if you do stop talking-remeber all the good times you had and don't talk bad about her, because one day you may put everything behind you and become friends again.
2006-11-24 16:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by AntzaGurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar friend like that in seventh grade through tenth grade. She was always pertrayed as the good one and when we got in trouble (mostly if not all her doing) she would come out as roses. She even had her parents thinking I was the BAD influence. Luckily my parents never fell for it.
Finally I ended our relationship in the tenth grade.
It was like yours, she started bringing up crap just to make herself seemed better and doing stupid crap. But once I ended our so called friendship things in my life got better and I felt better about myself.
Just end it, it's not a good friendship.
2006-11-24 16:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're having 2 problems in 1. you know you'll miss her if you stop being friends with her but this friend thing isn't working out and you kinda think ya'll should end it. talk to her. i know you're thinking 'i don't know how many times i've heard this tonight.' but it's the best way to handle this. talk to her and ask her what happened to you 2. say that you don't wanna lose her as a friend and that you really do wanna work this out with no fighting. maybe she will realize that you just wanna be friends with her and have nothing to worry about.
2006-11-24 18:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI. I THINK THAT YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING, BOTH
OF YOU ARE GETTING OLDER AND THE THINGS YOU DO
MAY BE SOMETHING THAT NEED SPACE AND TIME. IF YOU
REALLY WANT TO MAINTAIN SOME KIND OF FRIENDSHIP
WITH HER THEN BE HONEST WITH HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT
SOME OF THE THINGS THAT SHE DOES THAT BOTHER
YOU, THAT THE WHOLE THING IN A NUT SHELL.
2006-11-24 16:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do your own thing, people grow and change if she wants to be your friend then she'll come around and if not what have you really lost.
2006-11-24 16:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by AMC615 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're already moving in opposite directions so keep do ing that.
2006-11-24 16:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋