My Mom And Her Husband Split Up Like Two Weeks Ago And Yesterday She Had Another Guy Come Over 4 Thanksgiving Dinner.I Don't Know How I Felt About Him Coming Over.How Would You Feel?
2006-11-24 16:15:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a bit suspicious
2006-11-24 16:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you say "Her Husband" I wonder, was he your stepfather? I think that would make a difference in MY feelings. Purely subjective, but if it was your father, well, I don't think Thanksgiving is an appropriate time to bring "another guy." HOWEVER. It's really up to your mum, & I wouldn't say anything about it to her, however I felt. If your Thanksgiving was just "family" he probably felt a little uncomfortable, himself. Who ever knows what goes on (or doesn't) in other people's minds? You say you don't know how you felt, but I think you do or you wouldn't have asked here. & HOWEVER you felt, it's okay!
2006-11-24 16:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom is obviously more concerned about having a man around then respecting you. A mom/dad should never bring a man/woman into the children's life unless it is very serious and they are talking about marriage. What kid wants to see ever "buddy" their parent is hanging with???? It is disrespectful. The worse is when the new guy/gal has a sleep over! What kind of message is it sending to the kid? I think if I were you I would find someplace to escape to while she win and dines the men in her life. (Grandma's, Aunts, best friend)
2006-11-24 16:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You feel how you feel and there's no right or wrong to that.It's what you do or say with those feelings that count.If you think your mom is acting a little sluttish,you can't do any thing nor should you say any thing.Just mind your business and remember she's you mom and has her own reasons for her actions.When you see a behavior you don't like,don't emulate it ,that's the best way to destroy it.good luck .
2006-11-24 16:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, your mom can't help if she fell in love with someone else, (IF this was the case), but whether he was just a new friend, or new love, I do think she should have considered your feelings with the split up having been so soon...I think she should have asked if you were ok with it before hand. Not that she needs your permission, but just out of consideration for you.
2006-11-24 16:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by blue 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oooh. Not an easy situation for you. You are entitled to your feelings. But your Mom is an adult and though many may not agree with how she is acting...she is your mom. I suggest talking to her about it without any ATTITUDE. She does not mean to hurt your feelings. But she isn't thinking about you in this case. The whole point is, it isn't about you, in her eyes.
2006-11-24 16:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by mich 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That new guy is probably the reason they broke up.
I feel sorry for the new guy - he's gonna be stuck in the middle of a lot of confusion.
2006-11-24 20:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Quinn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say your mum and her husband. Was he not your father ?? If not l'd probably say here we go again !!! Boy , your mum certainly doesn't waste any time does she ?? You poor mixed up kid. Hope you have better luck with your wife when you finally get married than you have with your mum !!!!
2006-11-24 16:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're allowed to feel however you want to feel. Please don't listen to whatever people say here, it's entirely up to you how you want to react to this. If he's a nice man, and he makes your mom happy, its her choice, not yours.
2006-11-24 16:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that would bother me. she obviously had this man before. not a thing to do to a daughter either!!!!!
2006-11-24 16:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋