April i was supposed to have gotten married to my college sweet heart but he called the wedding off 4 hours before it was supposed to take place and told me he needed space and time to think. We have not spoken since that day and recently he left a message till now he has left 3 wanting to speak to me again saying he loves me still and he never meant to hurt me.I went on a cruise ship for a vacation and emotional recovery. I met an Australian instructor on the rock climbing wall and had a romance resulting in me being 4 months pregnant dads not involved.I dont now how to tell him without hurtng him and i still have feelings for him as my first everything. I think i still love him after finally talking to him over the phone .
2006-11-24 16:07:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am afraid he wont want me anymore if he finds out i am pregnant and i am afraid to feel all the hurt i went through all over again.?
2006-11-24 16:08:20 · update #1
If he didn't want to get married before - he sure isn't going to marry you now ***and raise some guys kid*** That ain't gonna happen, sweetie.
Put the shoe on the other foot: Would you do that for him?
Move on. Raise the child alone. Use better judgement in the future so your child won't have to suffer for your mistakes. The child already has to grow up without his real father.
Don't feel bad, you are just one in a million who have done the same thing. Life goes on.
2006-11-24 19:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Quinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen up, He already hurt you once and thye good news about that was that he was honest; he could not go through with the marriage -that was the hard truth at the time. You were hurt but it was honest. Now it is your turn to be honest. If he truly loves you, he will understand. He should not be hurt as he opened the door for you to run off and seek your happiness, be it through the bandaid of another man's arms or through whatever it took for you to be okay about getting back with him. If he, in the circumstances, rejects you again, he aint worth having.
Friend, it is not about you anymore - you have a little one now. Your baby deserves either a fully accepting father or the safety and love of a single mother. Do not be afraid - first comes baby, then comes mommy and only then comes the guy who once jilted you!!
2006-11-25 00:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there remember he left you on your wedding day. That gave you all the right to do whatever and who ever you wanted... He may still love you and feel bad about what he did to you, but no one would expect you to stay alone and just wait for him to come back to you. You have a baby on the way that should be the most important thing in your life... and if your x or almost husband wants to share in your life then he will have to want to share in your babys life... No matter what he says do not take any bad comments from him and remind him he left you and you did not leave him... Stand tall and I respect you for keeping your pregnancy without having the father there. Good luck to you.
2006-11-25 00:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look he left you four hours before your wedding i don't think there is more hurt than what you must have felt that day i am sure he hasn't been sitting around thinking of you he probably had a load of flings in the time you've been apart tell him the truth you are human and things happen if he truly loves you this is how you will find out if he steps up and takes you and the soon to be baby in his life that's real love if he flips he never loved you he just wanted a piece of a$$ good luck hope he is the man you think he is.
2006-11-25 00:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa... talk about a rebound.
Tell him. You've nothing to lose really. If he truly does love you, he'll understand what you did and why you did it.
When we find ourselves rejected by the one we love, we love the one we're with! ( hey wouldn't that be a great song!) smirk!
Seriously... if you plan to keep the baby, you have a limited set of options. The truth may hurt, but honesty is what is needed here.
Dig deep and perhaps even talk to a counsellor and see what YOU really want. Don't end up with the the dumper just to not be alone. That would be wrong for you too.
2006-11-25 00:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he left you just before you were to be married and you are worried what he is going to think?? come on, you moved on with your life, and now you are expecting another life. where is the father of this baby? if your not with the father of the baby, then talk to this guy. ask him why he left you like that, tell him how it made you feel. then tell him that you moved on with your life, that you had met someone, and that you are expecting a baby, but that plan fell through as well because you are now a single pregnant woman. that's all you can do. then the ball is in his court.if he still wants to be with you take things very very slow because not there is more than just you to think about.
2006-11-25 00:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth is the only way. You can't hide a pregnacy. Sounds like your afraid of being hurt. You never know if you don't ask. By the way, you need to get the father involved with some type of support.
2006-11-25 00:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth. No wimpering, no whining, no apologies. He left you practically at the altar - you went on with your life. You didn't do anything "wrong". Tell him straight faced what's been going on with your life. You can just not talk to him, too. It's up to you. It's YOUR life, too.
2006-11-25 00:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be honest. and if he accepts the truth he will stay.....that would be a sign that he really loves you. if he leaves you once again after hearing your news, then you are fortunate that you never married him in the first place.
2006-11-25 02:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by harleyq8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without insulting you because yahoo has a thing about hurting people feelings when its just tough love.
think how you would feel about, and would you want to end up with someone else child.
2006-11-25 00:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋