Where have all the good wives gone?

Question

I have had 2 wives now and both of them didn't know the meaning of " till death do us part", to them it was until I get a better offer. Am I destined to die alone? If thats the case I'd as soon go today! Lifes no fun this way!

Answer 1

Well, mine's with _me_, right now...

Seriously, having gone through similar crap to what you're writing about (and having caused my share of crap, too), I hear what you're saying. Sometimes, I felt like giving up. In fact, I _did_ give up about two years ago. But - and maybe I'm just lucky - somebody new came along.

And, since I had learned from all my previous mistakes, this one went perfectly! No, just kidding. It was hard work right from the start. It still is. But it's worth it.

So: don't give up, but remember, just like anything else where human beings are involved, sometimes things don't work out.

For now, you're allowed to feel bad. But don't close off. That just makes it worse. (It's good that you're asking questions, rather than sitting in a room with the curtains drawn and avoiding human contact, by the way.)

Trust me, people with feelings don't die alone. People who keep their hearts open never do.

Answer 2

I can relate. My question would be in the opposite gender. Where have all the good husbands gone? I've had 2 husbands. I never wanted to have 2 divorces. In my case, I am the one who saw that I had to get out of both situations. The first husband had temper problems that were escalating and he was becoming more physical along with the verbal with the "anger" (we'll just call it to be kinder since it's over now.) The second was unbelievable. He turned out to have a serious drinking problem, a criminal history and liked to quit or lose his jobs so that I could support us. We have a child together as well. He said he never wanted to marry me in the first place. He also let me know (in his drunken stupor) on my due date that he "was pretty sure that that baby was not his . . . and he was going to have paternity testing done as soon as possible." I still wanted us to work out. Our son was nearly 2 yrs old when I got him and me away from him. He was becoming more and more dangerous and starting to combine drugs with his drinking. I said till death do us part, but I wanted to live a few years longer than I would have otherwise. I wasn't about to bring my child up in that type of environment either. I never thought I was going to wind up divorced, let alone twice. I hate it! After the first time, I was alot more determined not to give up, or blame the next person for my past bad experiences. Now, I feel sort of the same way that you do. Life is no fun this way, it's not what I ever wanted. I always feel like people are thinking that since it happened more than once to me, I was some how the cause of it. I just wondered if you ran into that same line of thinking once in a while. (From people who don't know the situation, I mean) It sounds like you are describing some shallow-minded women that jumped into marriage when they shouldn't have. I hope you meet some one who shares the same respect for marriage that you do. I bet you will know when you do. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You must ask yourself and be honest why did you get a divorce from both of them? Was it something you did or did not do? Being married will not make you happy being alone will not make you unhappy. The only way you can be happy is to love yourself and be able to have fun being alone or being with someone. Some people are married and feel alone. Some people are single and are the happiest people around. Make sure the next woman that comes into your life that there is true love between both of you... Change things within yourself to make sure the same mistakes are not made with your last wife. I am married to a man and I am his 3rd wife and we have a great marriage and love each other more than I can say... So hang in there and wait your day of happiness will come. And there is no one out there worth taking your own life for... Always remember that..

Answer 4

Well I can honestly say I know what you are talking about that is for sure...well not wife wise but husband wise,lol. I was married for 17 years and ended it because of cheating, him not me. Since then I have dated 4 guys and I again ended those as again, they cheated on me. It is also my destine to be alone as well, but that is fine for me. I couldn't ever trust another man again. Been burnt for the last time. As a matter of fact, the last guy that I just broke up with a few months ago, I told him before we ended it that he was the last guy that I would ever get involved with again.The best thing for you to do is get a hobby or something. That is what I am doing. I stay busy all the time.

Answer 5

I understand what you are saying.... but do not give in... its hard .. I have just gone through that with my husband ... I will never leave you no matter what... guess what a bigger chested female, shorter skirted, and lower top flirting with him every day, and bang he is gone.... you may have meant it "until death do us part" as I did ... as I still love my husband, but some people male or female just say the words and mean them at the time, until little things turn sour, or they decide this is not the life for them to be with the one they are married to, and start looking elsewhere.... hang in there .. your soul mate you have not met yet....

Answer 6

Be patient good things come to those who wait . I too have been married twice and am actually going thru my div now lol. I think ppl have forgotten what marriage is really about. I wish you luck in finding that special someone. Just have fun dating and have a good time the right one will come. Good luck !!

Answer 7

I really think you should get into some therapy. It sounds like you need to work on some issues.
Take some time off and work on yourself. Your efforts will pay off in the long run - you will find an emotinally healthy person.
Women love confident men who are not always questioning themselves and their reason for living.

Having a realtionship takes work - all the time!! Not just in the beginning.

Answer 8

maybe you need to stop choosing the same wife over & over again ... make a list of what you want in a woman/wife and then start looking for that person and don't settle till she comes along

Answer 9

since i am here. i cant help you. but the yankees have a good shot getting to world series. you watch joe torre get this team back in go shape.

Answer 10

Nope..
there are many good women out there..
You must simply get better at choosing the good ones..