Should i send my girlfriend in Philippines money?

Question

It was my girlfriend in Philippines birthday today and as i have only known her a little while and found this around a week it was her birthday could not send her a birthday present in time.I thought to myself today should i send her a little money for it but if i do would she expect it alll the time.She is not working just finished a nursing course plus her family are poor thats why i ask.I told her i would send her an extra present for Christmas though.She never asks me for money by the way.I am trying to save up to meet her in CDO in April.I am from England.

Answer 1

My personal view is you shouldn't. A card for her birthday and another card for Christmas should be sufficient to show that you care for her.

I am a Filipina married to an Englishman (for 7 years now) and from my experience, in all the time that my husband and I were writing to each other I never expected any money from him - a card and a phone call had been sufficient on those special occasions and quite understandable because of the distance. In your girlfriends' case she isn't asking for money anyway.

Just be careful when money comes in into relationship because there are some ladies out there who are just after money.
Filipinas who are sincere with their relationship wouldn't ask for money from someone they haven't met as it is not an acceptable behaviour in our culture.

Best of luck in your relationship and hope everything goes well. I'm happy to answer any further question you may have.

Answer 2

I don't know if this is the best but I got my gal in the Philippines a visa buxx card and I can add money to that card. She can use it like a regular debit card but can only take out $100 dollars thru an ATM each week so it might not be for you. This card is really for teens but it works well for me so far. The charge to add money to the card is $2 and there are some other fees that I am not sure of but is cheaper than western union. I also considered opening a checking account here and giving her the debit card so she could withdraw money. The fee at my bank for international withdrawals is 1%.

Answer 3

Giving money would let her buy whatever she wants for her birthday. It would really help her. However, for some occasions, you can just give her a card. Just keep in touch! Not all people will be after your money. Filipinos would love more the sincerity in you!
Being a graduate here in the Philippines is also a hard transition. When you apply for work, they will consider you as volunteer even those who had passed the board exams. Sometimes it takes almost a year before you get a job, a low paying one. Though it is still in demand in some areas as London, USA, Singapore & other countries. It takes time! You have to pass the Philippine Licensure Examination, CGFNS, NCLEX, English exams! if you have passed, it will take you up to 3 years to be able to go abroad.

Answer 4

Well I don't know if this is unique to Filipinos but they seem to have a birthday every other day. I did meet a Filipino and fell madly in love with her and when that didn't work out i thought to find another and all i found were girls who wanted me to either bring them to the USA, or give them money for their poor family. At least if you get her in person you can get some sex for the money. Don't send her a thing until you know she is sincere and meets you. Most of the girls on line from the Philippines are just very talented beggars.

Answer 5

Send her something else other than money. Her family being poor doesn't mean you should give her cash. Send her chocolates or a card or flowers for her birthday if you really really want to give her something. She might expect you to send her money all the time if you start doing it. And besides, you've only known her for a little while...

Answer 6

Send her a card and something small, like a CD or DVD, in a padded envelope. Money is not a gift you should be extending to a woman you don't know very well and you don't want to become a cash cow for her. I was married to someone from an undeveloped country and it was a very uneven relationship and eventually ended because I was the educated, money making party in it.

Keep your head clear - it sounds like you already know she would expect more & more in the way of financial support.

Answer 7

Hi.

You will only be asking this question if you do NOT trust her with all your heart.

And, a word of advise: NEVER send money to anyone because you happen to meet in the Internet. NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, MAN!!!

There are (unfortunately) many of my fellow Filipinos who eke out a living by duping foreigners in the Internet by way of searching for love and compassion (falsely, of course!); only with an intent to lure moneyed foreigners into having found their true love via a young Filipina maiden. There are groups of these who connive secretly with young and attractive Filipinas who will pose as available future wives (posers, a.k.a. BAIT!) for love-hungry foreigners. This is really a very sad truth.

I am not implying that this girl from Cagayan de Oro City who you just met on the Internet belongs to this group! For all we know, she could be the one true treasure you are searching for. You yourself have mentioned she never asks for money.....well, that's a good point for all our Filipinas here! But, I guess, we will never be able to tell, huh?

Anyway, only send her money gifts once you've met her already in person. This way, you get to meet the real she, and her family. Filipino women are very close to their families; so when you meet up with her, I'm sure you will be meeting the rest of her family members very soon!

Protect yourself, man! Save your dollars! If she really loves you, with all of her heart, she'll understand your uncertainties.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

When you send bithday money, you will find out about the broken water buffalo and daddy's broken leg.....there is a amusing way to pass the time in the PI....Me and some buds go across the street from the local Western Union and watch the girls to see who makes the most trips to the W. Union to pick up cabled money.....those are the girls we usually meet that night partying, and everyone of them has a sttory for us as well.....btw....did she have a cell phone when you met her??????

Answer 9

No. Who are you, her uncle??? Why send cash to some1 you've never even met? And once you start this practice, all kinds of stories about a sick grandma, dying dad, a jailed cousin will come pouring in...beware! Send her a normal gf gift like chocolates or flowers....

Answer 10

How could you fall for such scam, don't you listen to your local news? You never met this person, I tell you what, just send me the money and I will make sure she gets it.