do you think cross dressing is disgusting?

Question

i dress as a girl whenever i can two previous girlfriends caught me dressed one was disgusted and couldnt be convinced i wasnt gay the other seamed okay with it i found out later only because she was already seeing another as she put it a real man.My present girlfriend,we hope to marry,doesnt know what i get up to im scared to tell but i know it wouldnt be right not to tell her im a sissy.
What do you girls and guys think of crossdressers. Rachel

Answer 1

i am a cd myself and i made the huge mistake of trying to hide it from my gf.. almost lost her she thought i was cheating on her. when i finally came cllean she was confused and had a hard time dealing with it but after talking she came to the realization that i was still the same person whetehr iwas wearing jeans an dworkboots or a skirt with heels. she accepted it as part of who i am as well as i have and we are very happy and stable, Tell her as soon as possible it may not go as well as youd like but you have to be honest because believe me yopu cant supress it it will come back to haunt you ive been down that road

Answer 2

Crossdressing is not disgusting in the least. It is just a form of gender expression that some of wish to exhibit, either to ourselves or with others.

As a matter of fact, women have been crossdressing for years and no one cares. Don't believe me? How often is it that you see a woman wearing jeans or pants for that matter? After all aren't they traditional men's wear?

Men have worn what we look at today as women's fashions for years. Tunics, Kilts, loin cloths, sarongs etc. and basically a form of women's clothing (dresses / skirts). Men have worn stockings long before they were popular with women as well as heels (not the 6" type of course). And makeup has been around for countless ages.

It is not the clothing that matters, but what the person wearing the clothing does while wearing it.

As far as your new gf, all experts agree that you should tell her first that you enjoy crossdressing. There are several good books out that you may wish to share with her, like those by Dr. Rudd.

Answer 3

A kilt is many times worn with a extra formal shirt and or jacket and knee-extreme socks. adult men positioned on the kilt purely above the knee and the sock cover all via the knee. A kilt is in a tartan development or plaid. additionally a kilt is worn with self assurance and in a manly way. I wore a kilt as a element of a Halloween dress and it became no longer warm. inspite of the undeniable fact that it became somewhat itchy (wool). The kilt became mild and did no longer sluggish me down or make my activity extra stable or extra stressful. i'm a trucker so spend my day leaping in and out of a truck, lifting and coping with new and previous purchasers. I had some great reactions to the Scottish Zombie dress i became wearing. i might even positioned on the kilt to our next Scottish pageant. bypass-dressing is a guy wearing a skirt or different woman outfits and cuts and who's attempting to look like a woman.

Answer 4

So someone thought you were gay? And what is wrong with that?

I'm no fan of homosexuality, but the logic of your question puts you at a disadvantage. You have a fetish and a lot of people don't like it, usually lumping it with homosexuality which also is commonly disliked because it is outside the bounds of heterosexual normalcy. Listen, if you were a fan of four-letter words and the girls you date were disgusted by your language, what would you do? You would either reserve your colorful language for when you weren't with your girl or get another girl. Same thing with cross dressing.

Answer 5

Society believes it is heathy for boys to want to be boys and for girls to want to be girls. When a girl wears pants, she isn't trying to pretend to be a man. On the other hand, the male crossdresser is trying to look as much like a woman as possible.

Have you noticed that you NEED to wear women's clothes? So what gives? Well, when a complusive cross-dresser wears women's clothes then his brain releases a series of neurotransmitters which gives him a feeling of well-being, sexual gratification, and self-fulfillment. These neurotransmitters are the same brain chemicals associated with addictions. You need them, more and more. You try different things in order to increase the "high". After a while you will create a female alter-ego, then you'll give her a name, then you will fall in love with her. If you marry, then you're wife will say that she feels like she is your second love. It's pretty sad.

The trick with cross-dressing is to realize that it is an addiction and to try to control it before it controls you.

Answer 6

I think you should tell her, to start a new married life with a lie is almost cruel, and something you may live to regret. If she loves you, she will try and help you deal with this need. Perhaps you need to find out what this need is and why? I do know and husband and wife who s husband was the same, but he later in life had a gender change completely, they remained together and are happy as they are. So...? Hope it works out for you, good luck!

Answer 7

Before you marry her and even before you ask her to marry you tell her about your secret, otherwise it will not be fair to her if she finds out after she becomes your wife. Many women will not understand and you can not blame her for this if she does not understand and walks away from you. Some people think men that cross dresses is weird others have no problem with it. But if you really love your present girlfriend then you need to tell her or give it up with the cross dressing... Your choice

Answer 8

cross dressing has nothing to do with one's sexuality..it is a fetish. You have a fetish that will give you a tough road to hoe throughout life. Very few women are going to understand this, and there are complications that enter when there are children about...this is not something a child can understand.
I have no advice. If the compulsion to cross dress is overwhelming, I think you had better put it on the table as quickly as possible, for you are the one who is going to get hurt badly here if she leaves you flat. There is no way of telling, but I think it takes a very understanding person to accept this in a straight guy. does it happen..yes, often.

Answer 9

I think you should be what you are. Don't continue to hide it from her, talk to her, let her know that you are not trying to hurt her, that this is a part of who you are, and you don't want to lie to her, or hide it from her. I agree with one of the previous posters, keep the dressing modest, there is a fine line between sexy and slutty, and most cds don't seem to understand the difference. If your fiance is more comfortable with knowing but not seeing it, at least at first, perhaps the two of you can work something out. Talking is the first step. Stay honest with her. Good luck.

Answer 10

If it turns you on, go for it. Does nothing for me but who cares you do whatever you feel is right for you and don't worry what others might say. Be honest and tell your girlfriend otherwise she will find out sometime and that could make matters worse. If she can't accept it now then perhaps she is not the long term partner for you.