How do you know if you have a good marriage or not? What if your afraid that you cannot make it alone and you love someone but you know in your heart things are not going right?
2006-11-24 15:22:25 · 12 answers · asked by Michelle6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Got to think positive. There are going to be some ruff times and some good times. We have been married 43 years and we have had our differences but we always work them out. I wouldn't want anyone else but the one who I have now.
2006-11-24 15:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by ><>JHF<>< 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest thing is to decide for yourself and base it on reality, what is love to you.
You will only know if someone loves you if they demonstrate to you... your definition of love.
Love is not a myth, it is painful requires self discipline, self sacrifice, and the ability to make unfavorable decisions and stick with them. A new love is like trying to imagine a flower by looking at the seed. Remember, that once it is planted your part of the growing process and will experience every aspect from the roots in the dirt to the petals on your most glorious flower. The point is to be able to accept it all, and not just the parts that are easy. If it were easy everyone would be doing it. It is the ability to make it through the rough parts that demonstrate your love as well as that of the other. Like exercise, it is not always attractive or fun while it is happening, but it will make you look damn good to others and yourself when you see it in the mirror of other couples. Love is an endurance activity, not something that is intended to be a constant joy.
2006-11-24 15:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there!
Done that!
I immigrated to the U.S way back in 73, was married with two
kids. After fifteen years the marriage ended in devorce.
I had no family here to help me at all, as they all lived in england.
It was TOUGH to say the least, but I'm a strong person and decided to make the best of it.
I knew I never got the love I deserved, and I loved my X very much, for many years. Slowly though, I began to loose any
feelings for him.
What I'm saying is this, You 'never' know for certain if someone
loves, unless you spend several years with them.
Unless of course, you find them cheating or something to that
effect, early in the relationship.
If I can do it alone, then so can YOU!!!
2006-11-24 15:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage goes through periods like that. Every marriage hits the wall sooner or later, and the only difference between the one's that fail and the one's that succeed is the determination to succeed.
Sometimes you have to face things that you thought you never could. But you do...unless you run away. But if you run away, then you never stop running, because those same struggles are there no matter who you're with.
And if you think you're in love now, wait until you've managed to get through some really hard times. You'll find out what love really is.
2006-11-24 15:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good marriage. ask yourself! are you comfortable with everything now? You may be doing a lot of house work, sometimes have quarrel and so on. but at the end of the day, you love him/her, and u share things together. then that's good!
Things have its own reason to be going wrong. have u heard about the Kold Cycle? this will help you tackle things.
1. Concrete experience: ask urself: what is going wrong?
2. Abstract conceptualization: ask: how is it? what can I learn from it.
3. (I cant remember but just call it "Improve"). how to improve
4. Concrete Exp again: how are things after u applied new lesson? are they better? something to improve? then it come back to step 2 and so on....
Personally, I think it's not good to live alone. life is full of not-so-right things. u should learn to live with them.
Happy marriage!
2006-11-24 15:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by hado_hl3130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I truly love someone, I would risk my life to save them because I care and love them that much. That applys for all my friends and one special someone.
2016-03-12 23:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will give you his divided attention always and care more for you than himself. Communications and togetherness means a lots when one wants to know true love in its essence.
2006-11-24 15:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know.........believe me .........you know. The trouble is you want to believe things that are not so and this is when your life becomes difficult. You can always make it and you won't always be alone. If you get over the fear than you are on the way to happiness.
2006-11-24 15:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by slipper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love somebody you will know in the pit of your stomach. your gut feeling will tell you , and your heart, if your heart tells you no then think it over!
2006-11-24 15:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with this person and have a nice long talk about were you too stand and whats going on and how you both feel
2006-11-24 15:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋