Too horny!!?

Question

I love my husband with all my heart. But he is constantly asking for sex. And when I say no, he gets soooo mad. I have gotten better to where we do it about 3 times a week, sometimes more. We do have 2 kids, which makes it diffuclut at times. And when we aren't messing around he has his collection. Of about 2dz dvds and 3dz vhs. Is it me or does he really have a problem??HELP!

Answer 1

He does have a problem. And you guys have a marriage problem. His abusive reactions to you not putting out to meet his needs are absolutely unacceptable, manipulative and abusive. He is obviously obsessed with sex/porn. What will you do? Lay down rules of conduct in the house, especially for the kids. If the kids are exposed...it is called contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

Answer 2

Well I have to say I think I am a little worst then him I was engaged not anymore not because of this But she said that she has never meet anyone like me because I like to make love 7 times a week and twice on Sunday. We are like you she has a daughter and I have a son so you just can't do as often as I like to and there isn't anything you can do about it but there was 2 time that she didn't do it and I was so mad and just lay there and stew over it so I went into the bathroom to masturbate and that was okay for her it suck that I am driven to that because I worry about taking care of my thing like that. Really the Average couple have sex 2 to 3 time's a week and I would say I fall in this at all. If you are able to do it 3 time a week then why not stops the fighting and if it last 10 min, so what.

Answer 3

First of all, you're lucky. Most men, when they get into porn, become less interested in sex with their steady partner. I agree with Zoe - You need to take a look at yourself first and ask why you don't enjoy 3 times a week. You probably need a little more attention to your needs during sex. As far as his desire for you, the more you resist, the more he will want you. Human nature: we want what we don't/can't have. If you want him to leave you alone, overdo it. Give him sex whenever he wants it & more importantly, when he doesn't. And don't take no for an answer. But, you need to make sure you're doing it in a way that pleases both of you. That problem is the easy one. The down side is that this may cause him to get more into porn, for which he'll probably need help. It is NOT a serious problem and it's not a deficiency in him. He just needs to get some other hobbies that really interest him.

Answer 4

Your not my wife hiding under this name are you?
Anyway, there is not much you can do. My wife tried to give in give it up every time I wanted it, all that did was make me want even more. What is going on is an intimacy problem, he views that sex is the way to show his love for you, when you tell him no he sees that you are rejecting his love. The best thing to do is either seek out some counseling - don't worry when he refuses, I did too - or find a copy of "The Five Love Languages" and get him to read it. Oh and you have to read it, too.
Hope that helps!

Answer 5

It sounds like he is a sex addict, if what you say is true. When i was first dating my wife 25 years ago 4 or 5 times a day was normal(for us) We are at about 4 times a week now and if circumstances change then 2 or 3 weeks without is O K.. Maybe he needs more affection. You know slow back rubs ,cuddling just something to show that you still care.. I bet once he knows that you love him and desire him the things will slow down... Zed

Answer 6

Sounds like a typical guy :) 3 times per week sounds sensible to me, but I think most guys would like more! Some ask and pester.
Do you enjoy it? If you find it's too him-oriented, talk to him about experimenting with different positions and activities. What turns YOU on? Tell him, and work with it! Sex shouldn't be a chore, but you shouldn't be having it a million times a day.

He also should not be getting mad if you say no. If it's causing serious problems, try couples therapy. It really DOES help!

Good luck!

Also, the porn is normal, too. Have you tried watching it with him?

Answer 7

He has an extremely healthy sex drive. Definately take it as a compliment. It can be a little aggravating at times, but at least he is still totally into you. Can you talk to him at a time where he is NOT horny and let him know how you feel? Marriage is about compromise. It sounds as if you are compromising and making love to him 3+ times a week. Maybe he can compromise as well and realize that you aren't just all about sex.

Answer 8

This is not uncommon that in marriage one spouse is more interested in sex than the other.The following are survey result of sex frequency
No sex in past year 3.7%
No sex in past month 13.6%
Once or twice per month 20.1%
Once of twice per week 27.4%
Three to five times per week 18.5% your frequency
Five to six times per week 5.5%
Daily 2.6%
More than daily 3.2%
As you can see half of the couple make love about once or twice a week so your marriage is not exceptional and your husband in not hyperactive.
You can always discuss your feelings with your husband and hopefully find a solution. It looks that your marriage is worth compromise.

Answer 9

He has a problem, it's called a sexual addiction, and from the sounds of it, he doesn't respect you or your feelings at all. All he cares about is his pleasure and could care less if your enjoying it or not. My advice is, he needs help, SOON. Also even though he may get angry, tell him if he doesn't start considering you and your feelings, you will not give him sex.

Answer 10

You should not put up with him getting angry at you for not wanting too have sex ,thats very selfish of him , sounds like he doesnt care whether you feel like it or not to some degree , any man with a careing nature wouldnt want too have sex with a women who isnt in the mood . Id put it too him that it upsets you that when he gets mad about you not wanting sex with him when he wants it , that it really makes you very sad . If he does care he will be ok with that .