2006-11-24 14:27:20 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What really matters in all this is you're feeling insecure and that's an awful place to be.
When you're the other woman you will always wonder if/when it's going to happen to you.
I think if he did it to her...he'll do it to you...why wait around to see when it'll happen.
2006-11-24 14:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So do you think that he is just bored of his wife so he thought he would entertain himself with another women. I'm not going to defend this man some people who seek love outside of their marriage do so because they need to be loved.God only knows why people stay in a marriage and then go and have an affair.
If you are the other women then you have to except that's all you are,if he leaves his wife for you it could play on your mind that he will do the same to you. If it is a case of getting bored then I think that he will always tire of who ever he is with so he wont treat you any differently to his wife. All you mistresses out there can live in hope though....
2006-11-25 05:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by cinders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says he will get bored with the new woman? Think about it he has gone through a lot to be with her. And maybe he and the first wife married for the wrong reasons or reasons that just don't make sense any more. And maybe just maybe he fell out of love. Marriage is hard and if you don't work on it, it may not surivive. So maybe he isn't willing to put in that work with someone that things have gotten ugly with but his new love he sees the effort there.
It's not all a question for her, your question should be possed to him.
2006-11-24 22:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking about this paradox. The question (and therein lies the answer) is he? If he is brave enough to tell you that he is reluctant or remorseful or at least confused by his desire to make love to you while still 'entangled' elsewhere, then give him some points for insight, and make a judgement based on the circumstances. But if he is blissfully unaware of what he is doing, and what he is signalling to you about his reliability, well then work on the principle that 'past behaviour is the best guide to future performance' and take steps to protect your assets, if not your heart.
2006-11-25 03:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by nandadevi9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you have doubts and are very worried, or you are placing ideas in peoples heads. Good question though, probably something that goes through lots of people minds. No one can know the answer to this at first, so whats the point in worrying about it. They say a leopard can never change its spots..........but that can very untrue. As someone said earlier, if they are in love with you, theywill be happy. perhaps they learn't from mistakes, and ensure they will not be repeated.
Blessings
Soli
2006-11-25 00:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Solista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only thing I can say is, if he got bored with her and came to you then 9 times out of 10 when he gets bored with you he will move on to someone else. Question is are you really worth that??? I think that you are worth more than that because I can see that you are thinking everything out.
2006-11-24 22:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jai 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no i think if he wasn't too good to his ex, than he isn't going to treat the other woman who broke them up any better, he may infact one day blame the other woman for the breakup of his marriage. he may look back in remorse and see that this other woman didn't hold a candle to their ex. as he will get just as boored with her and whatever he did to his wife he will also do to the other woman. he may blame the other woman if his life doesn't turn out as planned, or the other woman isn't who he thought she was.
2006-11-24 23:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If only everyone saw this!! If he gets bored w/ his wife and strays, why wouldn't he always be looking for something better??? You're just a temporary "fix" until something better comes along.
2006-11-24 23:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems as if you already know the answer to that question. Don't get too attached to a man that leaves someone that he supposedly comitted to for life. Be very careful because it sounds like you may be about to stick a wet finger into an electrical outlet!
2006-11-24 22:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. I am involved with a married woman at the moment but have no intention of being faithfull to her. I am single so I dont see why I can't do as I please, but she knows this and is happy about it.
Hun, thats life I am afraid x.
2006-11-25 06:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋