pleeze help me i dont know how i can get along with my mom and not want to totaly scream at her all of the time!!!!!!!!????????
2006-11-24 14:21:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I suppose you must be a teen girl to be asking this question. But, have you ever just gone up to her nicely and without accusing or sounding insulting, telling her how you feel. Maybe you might even want to let her know you are so dissapointed and want to change things that you even posted this to Y!Answers. Anyhow, let her know without blaming and accusing her and admiting it is partially your fault (even if its not), that you do care to change your relationship with her and you hope to have a nicer one. Why dont you even try to take a step back and think about how life might be like in her shoes? Do you really understand the pressures she must face everyday? Can you image if you had a daughter like you are to her? Could you handle it? Anyhow, there is no way you will become best friends at this point, and it is probably a good thing. But, you can try hard and talk with her and maybe even say you are sorry for all the yelling (again even if its not your fault).
2006-11-24 14:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by immune01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her when she starts on you and go for a walk. Go to her when in a good mood and explain your situation when she gets off at you and be honest and fair as well. Listen to her and be respectful, but ask for her respect while you say your piece too. A parent sometimes yells whenever they are afraid for the young ones and do not know how to communicate it to them and when they get all wired up it starts an ongoing fued if both parties are unable to calm down and listen to what the other is saying, not just hearing words, but actually listening to what is being said. You are responsible for your own actions and she is responsible for hers. So both of you have to admit the guilt and take a step back and relax and talk and LISTEN too---one at a time not together. Good luck, and listen up. you will be very surprised when the two of you are friends and actually listen to each others comments and it will all make sense to both of you.
2006-11-24 14:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by colinhughes333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By remembering that before she was your Mother, she was a human being. Let go of the hurt. Hanging on to it, drags you down to where that is all that you want to do, argue with her. It doesn't matter what she does, with the exception of abuse, she is still, and will always be, your Mother. She makes mistakes, and has her opinion, just like any other human on the planet. When you feel like yelling at her, as hard as this might be, look her in the eye and say, "you know, I love you". This will stop her from wanting to argue with you too. Good Luck!!!!
2006-11-24 14:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on you age, I would recommend:
Going to college in another state.
If you are past that point, what are you two arguing about? She is being too nosy or trying to run you life? Perhaps you need to have a difficult discussion on boundaries? Maybe you are over-reacting to what she is saying and you need to take a step back and see why you want to scream at her?
Either way, I hope you iron things out with you Mom.
2006-11-24 14:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by dcbongo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to fight with my mom all the time, now we get along. it happens as you get older hopefully. I moved out at 18, which was hard, and all the sudden she tried to be nice to me when I had my own house and we weren't in each other's faces all the time. but really it was because eventually, she had to realize that my life was not an extension of her life and it only reflected on her so much. you are your own person, your mom will someday realize that, until then, you are "her child" and she feels obligated to push her own life onto you I know what's best type of things. I wish you the best. family is hard, just remember that you can't choose your family, but you can choose how your family affects you.
2006-11-24 14:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by schoolgirl27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter telling her how you feel and that you don't want things to get any worst between you both. Then ask her to think about it then let you know how the two of you can make things better. OR talk to Dr. Phil.
2006-11-24 14:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you and why are you fighting? is she abusive to you or are you simply rebelling against her rules?
try to take a breath before you say anything to her. if you are a teen, your rebellion is a natural part of you hormonal changes, however you have the power to be able to control it.
If you feel your relationship is beyond hope, you need to seek counselling as soon as you can - preferably with your mother
2006-11-24 14:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay on her good side my mom and my sis are like that all the time but if you go with your friends all the time or totally ignore her sometimes w\out noticing it then that's it.... just spend more time with her and ask her stuff and tell her how school went.. it's kinda lame but it pays off so much there is no more screaming and hollaring in my house... trust me
2006-11-24 14:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either avoid her, to let things cool down between you two, or you can try to calmly explain your feelings to her and if she starts to get mad, don't get mad back, just stay calm and try not to start yelling, just breethe an relax.
2006-11-24 14:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by dramagirl4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the power to control yourself. Two people cannot fight if one of them is unwilling to do it.
2006-11-24 14:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋