My parents think I don't know about sex, but every other teen in the church knows about it.?

Question

My whole family are devout Christians. Allow me to take the liberty of saying that at 14 years old I know about sex. My parents never said a word, and when asked about how babys are "made" in earlier years they said God put them in moomy's belly... Thats cool, but at our church ever other kid knows about it. even the 10 year old friend my sister hangs out is well informed (thank God my sis don't know about it yet)
Anyway, my parents are OVERprotective, they won't even talk about suicide, they redirct it until we(kids) leave the room.
I go to Christian school, and my Bible teacher rarely meantions it, but occationally he takes a side course on it.
Anyway, I don't wanna come straight out and tell 'em, they'll think they've ruined my childhood exc....(WHICH IS OVER, I CAN LEGALLY GET A JOB!)
I really wish I could be normal like all the other 14 yr old teenagers at church and school.
I'd like them just to not be so protective...How can I get 'em to stop protecting me to much?

Well, anyway, I don't mind so much, it's just, I know alot, maybe more than the kids whos parents make it normal...

Like, I know myself, I'm the "Jesus Freak" that has accually read the Bible...people stare at me when I can tell them the book of the Bible that a event is happening in. I'd just like to be able from them no to protect me as much... like in my jr.high class we talked about the euthopion eucrist or whatever (no male reproductive areas, they cut them off so he could work for the queen)
And the teacher was 1/3 of the students parents!lol, it's a small class of 9, but still, it's bad when my own parents can't even talk about suicide infront of me..

And, I know about sex ect. don't worry, I've commited that I'm saving my self to the on lady I marry (at 14 I find "dating" no proper, I've never been with a girl other than just friends, and that was when I was 4) I find otherwise can ruin your relationship!

In answer to queston #8 I'd like a closer relationship with them I guess. Not one as a parent/8year old, but as a parent/friend... I'd like to not be shielded from EVERY piece of news they have, such as suicide, or simply real life in the Christian area...like in gay marriage, I'd never support it, but would they ever state there oppoins around me? NO. My Christian grandparents are more open than they are on most issuise, because they assume I know about them... or a t.v. program that has some slight language (such as that you find on these yahoo message boards) they'd kill me if knew I was on here...

Answer 1

I can sympathize with you, there were many things like that I never saw/heard any discussions of as a child or teen, and it made things more confusing as an adult. My parents never hugged/kissed in front of me, never discussed money or "business" and treated me like a small child...until I was married and moved away.

Maybe they don't realize that sheltering you so much makes a negative impact on your life. Could you go to a pastor/youth pastor or trusted friend in your church, someone you and your parents both respect? Ask their HONEST opinion, maybe ask them to help you discuss it with your parents. I have a 15yo son and I encourage him to discuss almost anything with me, even if I don't want to hear it - if you understand what I am saying.

From a parents' perspective, kids grow up too fast, knowing too much at a young age. I've learned to accept that and try to roll with the punches to an extent, but I'm also a stepparent, so it's just a different relationship altogether. I adore my two boys more than anything else, but I think they regard me differently than a biological parent.

BTW, I admire how you respectfully asked the question. You seem to be a fine young adult! Take care.

Answer 2

you should just be open with them, sit down with them and tell them you know about the birds and the bees, and other things like that. just tell them that you're 14 years old, and while you love and respect everything they've done to raise you, you should be allowed to "know" more, simply because you're going to be out of the house in just a few years, and this is the time of life where you start preparing for the rest of your life.

perhaps you could talk to your grandparents, and have them meet with you and your parents together.

Your parents can't be too upset with you, because you seem like a great kid, and you probably are, in which case even though you know more then they wanted you to know, it doesn't mean you're ruined, or will become a horrible person. just make sure that whatever you tell them, you do it out of respect and kindness.

about the youth group... i know how it feels to stick out, no matter what the reason. my advice is don't dwell on how different your parents are, or whatever. every kid thinks they're parents are dumb, or the odd ones out.

I also understand how it feels to be the one who actually reads the bible, and can quote it and tell people about it. i don't get upset when people look at me funny though, i'm proud that i know the bible so well, and it feels good when i can really use scriptures in life. so don't let that get to you, and be proud that you DO know where those stories came from!

ps. the word you were looking for was eunuch. they were male servant/slaves who had they're reproduction organs removed so that they would be completely loyal and focused on the king, with no family ties. the word you used, eucharist, is one of the seven sacrements in catholicism.

Answer 3

Some parents can be like that. Since the growth of teen pregnancy schools have had programs to educate kids about intercourse. In your case you could always go to a public library and find information. Sometimes just attempting to talk to your parents can bring negative results, especially when they are dead set on keeping you away from something you should have knowledge of at your age. Wikipedia.org is a good place to find information too in case there are things you still are not sure about. When in doubt sit down with your parents and just be straight forward with them. It may make them uncomfortable but its their responiblity as parents to explain these things to you. Most parents feel that way anyway. Parents never like to have the big talk about 'the birds and the bees' but it has to be done. They can't tell you that God put the baby in your mom. If that were the case then she would be on the news channels talking about how a baby 'magically' appeared in her.

Good luck with the parental units.

Answer 4

Parents are funny that way. I wouldn't go and tell your parents you know all about sex, because that will make them worry more. I'm glad your well informed, I hope that will lead you to make wise decisions about your body. If you want to talk to your parents then great! Do it, tell them you need more information so that you can make good decisions. You shouldn't assume you know everything, because most likely you dont. I also hope that your parents morality rubs off on you and you realize the importance of waiting until you are truely an adult before considering taking such a huge step.
BTW...if your sis's friend knows, there is a good chance your sis knows too.

Answer 5

Honestly, that is a very difficult question to answer...there are a LOT of other factors that we really cant know about. Everything from your childhood, to their childhoods can affect how protective of you they are.

Personally, if they were like that with me, I would sit them down...and have a heart to heart with them. Tell them that you know more about things then they seem to think you do. Be straightforward with them, and be honest. At the same time, show them that you are a mature person. If you have a choice, be responsible, dont do things that they would strongly disapprove of.

Theres really not much that you can do about it. I come from an Indian family, where all the parents are strict, and overprotective. While I dont have all the freedom I would like, we have managed to find a balance. They realize that I am knowledgeable about the world, and dont need them to explain most things to me. They are also fairly loose about who I hang out with. They are still fairly strict on when I have to be home by.

In the end, just talk with them. Parents tend not to be completely unreasonable. Just reason with them...

Best of Luck,
Pyro

Answer 6

Double life! They think im an innocent girl who has a few anger problems, gets good grades, is not interested in guys at the moment, . I really smoke weed and have fooled around with guys alot before. Not to mention my parents are both at work when I get home from school so that gives me time to have a smoke or fool around. I don't drink though.

Answer 7

How important is it for them to know that you know? If it is important to you for them to know, the only thing you can do is to tell them. Otherwise, don't have sex until your married and answer your sister's questions when she starts asking them. Your parents may be a little overprotective, but you sound just like many other teenagers. "I wish my parents could understand me!" You may be more like "normal" teenagers than you think. If your parents will not talk to you about sensitive topics, then find another adult who will.

Answer 8

It's time to tell your parents that you know about sex but you need more information from them. It is better to get this info from your parents than from other kids who are not well informed and may have really bad advice.

Your parents are tryng to protect you from what is happening in an ever increasingly dangerous world. Some day you will appreciate it. There are parents who don't care at all what their kids do. All they care about it themselves. Be thankful that you have caring parents.

Answer 9

Baby I have a 15 yr old and as parents we dont want to think that yall know ANYTHING about sex. I think if you sit down with your parents and explain to them in a PROPER and RESPECTFUL way that they would appreciate and respect you more for it. I talk with my kids about sex, condoms, and etc... I think they feel comfortable coming to me. Good luck!

Answer 10

Talk about it in front of them and to your friend that tell everything to there parents. They will call your parents. They will talk to u about it.