should I tell my husband?

Question

we rented a room in our house to a single man. he and I were talking and I said my husband and I didn't have sex very often. He said he was the same. later that night he slipped me a note asking me to sneak into his room at night for sex. I love my husband, and would never cheat on him. But I am sort of uncomfortable now around this other man. should I tell my husband about his note?

Answer 1

This guy needs to move on. I'd try to keep your husband out of this if possible. No since in creating a bigger issue.

If you love your husband, don't commit adultery. Also, I think you need to discuss the sex issue with your husband.

You set yourself up big time for this one!

Answer 2

Sounds like you two had a pretty intimate conversation.. Well this might not be an easy fix..1) You talk to husband and he's going to be pissed, the kind of info you gave to this man is very personal..2) You ignore it and it's just going to get harder to handle.. I would say the best thing to do is have a talk with this guy and let him know where you stand so this doesn't come up anymore.. Don't think that this is going to be a friendship for you and the live-in, he has found out you have issues with sex and he'll play it off you.. Talk to him if it doesn't die, then you might have to inform your husband...

Answer 3

He said he was the same? As in: he doesn't have sex with your husband very often either?

Find a new person to rent that room. He may reveal the topic of your discussion to your husband...

Answer 4

Give that guy the boot. Explain to him that the note made you uncomfortable and that you want him to move out. If he puts up an argument, threaten to show your husband the note. If he knows what good for him, he'll leave asap. If he's dumb-dumb, show your husband the note and let the teeth fall where they may.

Answer 5

You need to ask this man to leave before you do something you might regret and ruin your marriage. You really should'nt of talked to this man about yours and your husbands sexual life. Sounds like this mans invitation is a little tempting to you and your scared you might accept. You stated that you love your husband so my advice would be to talk to him and maybe get some help if there is a sexual problem with him that maybe viagra or something like that might help. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

I would actually ask him (your husband) if he wrote that note and pretended to be someone else. That way you tell him and he will not be threatened by you having sex with the other guy. If you can't tell your husband, you're in dangerous territory.

Answer 7

Find someone else to rent the room. Whatever issues are between you and your spouse will not get worked out with this type of tenant around.

Answer 8

It depends on what type of person he is...
A MAN WHOS A FIGHTER:
NO...help the man find another home as soon as possible without telling your husband,explain to the man that you love your husband and you will never hurt yor husband in any kind of way!

A MAN WHO IS A LOVER:
tell your husband that you are not getting the attention you want in the bedroom like you think you should..plain a romantic date in between you and him...candles..fireplace..scents...whip cream..chocolate..strawberries...cherries...ice cream...chocolate,strawberry syrup...and anything freaky you can think of!...juts tell him you love him alot and he means alot to you!
let him know how special he is to you!
and leave the other man alone!
write me back and tell me how it goes!

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Answer 9

well 1st of all why was you talking about sex to a man that you don't know very well that was going to live in your house? I am sure if you told you husban the whole story he would be very upset. and you should be uncomfortable you Don't kbnow this man very well....Good Luck

Answer 10

YES tell him and I suggest getting this man out of y'alls house. Who knows what he would try while your husband isn't home..he could be dangerous.